[pegasus]

T cancelled..............

[kimmydawn]

I'm sorry ((((((((((((( pegasus ))))))))))))))))

I hope it was rescheduled quickly.

KD

[pegasus]

I have another appointment next week but absolutely hate it when T cancels at the last minute.

I know he couldn't help it and he said sorry lots of times, but oh!

[kimmydawn]

Yes, if it gets to be alot, it's not fun and doesn't seem fair. I mean, we know stuff happens, but when it's alot, it can bring on alot of other thoughts and feelings, huh?

Have you talked with him about this?

KD

[pegasus]

Oh! We have discussed this a lot and last time this happened he said that we will revisit this again....................

(Yes, thanks T!..................But I really didn't need you to do this to me right now!).

I am attached to him and I have huge abandonment issues.

Thanks for caring kimmydawn.

[Perna]

pegasus, think of it as "practice." I had a good friend who use to tell me, "it will be good for you in later life" (and we'd laugh because everyone hates hearing such things). But I seriously tried to put a good spin on the little things that went wrong in therapy like that; you can't see how things affect you unless they do. I use to live in books so it took me a long time to get use to "reality" and learn that I can cope with the things that go wrong day-to-day and get so they don't bother me so much. We can't keep things the "same" no matter how hard we try so learning to get along with change by having "controlled" change like a missed session or two, helped me.

[Fuzzybear]

I'm sorry hon! That has to be painful.....

It's not much consolation I know, I sort of agree with perna though, abandonment issues can be worked through with a therapist so in the end it will help you heal (((((((((((((( pegasus ))))))))))))))

((((Pegasus)))))) Abandonment issues are tough. I have them also. I always think the worst and start feeling I'm not loved or thought about. In the end, when I "reality" check, it's really not that at all.....but it doesn't help the way I feel. It is good practice tho---and revisiting the issue with your T is a good idea.

[pegasus]

Thank you all for your thoughts on this.

I kinda know the sensible view on this - Hey! It's not the end of the world, I'll see T next week!

Been with T for 5 years now and still the child-parts of my personality panic big-time when things are different.

Thanks again for being here when I needed.

[wanttoheal]

((((((((((((((Pegasus)))))))))))
I'm so sorry T cancelled. I know that can be tough to deal with. I hope the time goes quickly for you until next week.

[pegasus]

Thanks (((((((((((( wanttoheal ))))))))))))))

[January]

((((((((((( Pegasus ))))))))))))

I care.

Hugs,

Jan

[pegasus]

I was feeling very sick yesterday but a bit better today.

Hugs

[Perna]

I love when having to wait is "over" and it goes toward seeing my therapist again and I can hope again. I use to get sad after a session "wore off" because I had to wait a week for the next session. But after 3-4 days, it was like Wednesday, "hump day" and work; I could get excited that I had another "chance" to talk to my therapist soon and the waiting wasn't nearly as hard. I could look forward instead of being disappointed. Now that I think of it, it kind of feels like looking forward to one's birthday/Christmas/some other holiday as a kid and then the next day when it's over, in miniature.

Maybe some of us are more sensitive when a T cancels a session because our mother/father/someone that meant something to us would promise things and then at the last minute have to cancel? I've never thought of that; remember how you could want something so much as a child and ask your parents and get a "no" or "maybe" and felt like you didn't have any control over how much you wanted it or whether you'd get it? Maybe missing people/therapists is like that and not getting the "puppy" we so dearly wanted and were "sure" we were going to get that Christmas. I still remember when I asked for a bow and arrows for Christmas and in my mind I was thinking of cowboys and indians and going out and killing my own food and being self-sufficient, etc. but I was only 6 so, of course, I only got suction-cup toy arrows that didn't even stick to the small, paper target (I was thinking Robin Hood and bales of hay, etc.) and I was both very disappointed and even insulted! They didn't "trust" me with "real" tools, just these children's toy ones! LOL

[pegasus]

What you have written there is totally NOT the case for me.

But thanks for the reply.

[BENNY]

sorry your t cancelled,

i know how that feels. mine didn't exactly cancel, this time, but didn't get back to me about making an appointment. ( he forgot appt. book last session.) so he kind of skipped it ahead a couple weeks when he did call.( jan. 5,) i told him it didn't bother me. which is problably not true, but i've been real sick lately. ( ruptured disk in neck, alcers in my esophagous, and something having to do with bile backing up into my stomach, because some valve won't close.) in other words; i feel like crap and would rather stay home and talk to you guys anyway.

i don't know if i'll ever believe in anyone sticking around. i'm still get afraid my husband will leave, even though he's told me he'd never do that. i'm not used to anyone being there for me, emotionally. i don't like feeling dependent on anyone. never have. problably not a good idea, oh well.

being able to talk to someone that understands is important. i hope you know no matter what, we'll always be there for you. it may not be the same thing as a t, but we can relate to how you are feeling. the forum has helped me more than i could ever say.

hope you are feeling better!
benny

[pegasus]

T's back.

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((((((( pegasus )))))))))))))))

[pegasus]

(((((((((((((( Fuzzybear )))))))))))))))

[tallison]

i'm glad to hear your T is back!!! i get really upset when mine cancels also... most of the time my T is what i live for!!! it's the only thing i really have these days to hold onto so i can totally relate!!!! hope you're doing well!!!

[wanttoheal]

((((((((((((pegasus)))))))))))))) Glad T is back

[pegasus]

Yay!

[bipolar_bear]

((((((((((((((((Pegasus)))))))))))))))))))) woo hoo

[pegasus]

I'm totally %#@&#!-up today but nevermind.

[allthegirls6]

((((((((((((((((((((((((((pegasus)))))))))))))))))))))))

you are very special