how do you like to be known

do you have a name a system name, or are you known via the name of the host- or does each person reveal their identity if they want to.

we're known as utopia. why utopia, i have no idea. that's none of our names- i suppose it's just something that sort of stuck. (how it stuck, i don't even know)

but yeah each of us will also say who we are

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by shattered sanity

how do you like to be known

do you have a name a system name, or are you known via the name of the host- or does each person reveal their identity if they want to.

we're known as utopia. why utopia, i have no idea. that's none of our names- i suppose it's just something that sort of stuck. (how it stuck, i don't even know)

but yeah each of us will also say who we are

inside some had names some did not. those that had names used their names when in control of the body. short version is my alters were DID type that all were alternate personalities that all functioned as separate identities from me (the host) example when Sunny was working at her job as a waitress she was the one that went out and got that job, filled out the paperwork as Sunny and her co workers called her Sunny. When Brooke was in control of the body her friends and co workers called her Brooke

caused some confusion because when I (the body person/host/one in which they all lived in) was in control of the body I never knew what the others had done, said. sometimes their friends and co workers would come up to me out in public talking to me as if they knew me. there I am standing talking to complete strangers and they acting as if they know me. very strange.

though with regular family and friends I grew up with everyone answered to the name of Amanda simply because everyone of my family and childhood friends did not know I had others inside of me and they called me Amanda so my system of alters naturally answered to my body given name.

this my name vs alter names was a bit confusing for me after I was diagnosed. you know who am I, what should I be called now that I know stuff. by my treatment provider told me this is just the dynamics of what DID is. that its a protection so of course alters answer to the body name and of course they have their own names too and of course some are so protective of the secrets that they didnt have any names.

As an adult I can continue to go by the body/birth name or any name of my alters or I can even choose a completely different name/legally changing my name through a court process.

I chose to not go by my alters names. they were their own identities, that they treasured/earned through all the pain they saved me from feeling and used when they were in control. their reasons for being in part was so that I did not have to know, associate nor feel the pain of abuse. why would I want to be known by the names associated with my abuse/traumas. every time someone called me those names after integration it was just a reminder of childhood abuse and trauma. I was ready to move on to living in the present moment where abuse and trauma didnt rule my life, didnt constantly remind me how dirty and painful I felt. I didnt want to walk through my present life constantly feeling like a victim I was as a child filled with pain/anxiety, nightmares/like I was still being abused and traumatized.

I chose to keep my birth name that was given to me by my parents named after a very special relative.

I know someone who's birth name and the alters names were just reminders of their abuse/trauma so they legally changed their name so something that was not the birth name nor the alters names. something that was special and happy for them that would enable them to move on in the present moment not constantly reminded of their trauma/abuses that they had to go through in order to be DID. even though this person is not integrated as a whole they all answer to the new non trauma filled/ trauma reminding name.

[kaliope]

im new to all of this having only been diagnosed the beginning of this year so i pretty much stick to the name i have gone by all my life. some of my alters have revealed their name and i can tell their energy when they are present but i know when t is talking to other alters and asking for names, they get frustrated about that. ??? it is like what do names matter? t keeps pushing though and i say the first name that pops in my head. i dont know if this is how alters reveal their names or not. i have one who is just a pirate. no name has been attached. he just has this pirate type energy and comes across as a pirate. we are coconscious so i just say the pirate is here and he says what he needs to say. i have read lots of stuff but have yet to come across anything that really explains alters for me to understand what is going on.

We all go by our individual names. We also have a collective name.

[Luce]

In my system some alts insisted on being called their own name, and some refused to associate any name with themselves at all. Some answered to the birth name for the sake of convenience, although there has been no part of us here that has associated their sense of self with the birth name for as long as I can remember.
I have not legally changed my name, but I - as a mostly integrated self - am known by a different name and have been so for many years now.

Originally Posted by amandalouise

inside some had names some did not. those that had names used their names when in control of the body. short version is my alters were DID type that all were alternate personalities that all functioned as separate identities from me (the host) example when Sunny was working at her job as a waitress she was the one that went out and got that job, filled out the paperwork as Sunny and her co workers called her Sunny. When Brooke was in control of the body her friends and co workers called her Brooke

caused some confusion because when I (the body person/host/one in which they all lived in) was in control of the body I never knew what the others had done, said. sometimes their friends and co workers would come up to me out in public talking to me as if they knew me. there I am standing talking to complete strangers and they acting as if they know me. very strange.

though with regular family and friends I grew up with everyone answered to the name of Amanda simply because everyone of my family and childhood friends did not know I had others inside of me and they called me Amanda so my system of alters naturally answered to my body given name.

this my name vs alter names was a bit confusing for me after I was diagnosed. you know who am I, what should I be called now that I know stuff. by my treatment provider told me this is just the dynamics of what DID is. that its a protection so of course alters answer to the body name and of course they have their own names too and of course some are so protective of the secrets that they didnt have any names.

As an adult I can continue to go by the body/birth name or any name of my alters or I can even choose a completely different name/legally changing my name through a court process.

I chose to not go by my alters names. they were their own identities, that they treasured/earned through all the pain they saved me from feeling and used when they were in control. their reasons for being in part was so that I did not have to know, associate nor feel the pain of abuse. why would I want to be known by the names associated with my abuse/traumas. every time someone called me those names after integration it was just a reminder of childhood abuse and trauma. I was ready to move on to living in the present moment where abuse and trauma didnt rule my life, didnt constantly remind me how dirty and painful I felt. I didnt want to walk through my present life constantly feeling like a victim I was as a child filled with pain/anxiety, nightmares/like I was still being abused and traumatized.

I chose to keep my birth name that was given to me by my parents named after a very special relative.

I know someone who's birth name and the alters names were just reminders of their abuse/trauma so they legally changed their name so something that was not the birth name nor the alters names. something that was special and happy for them that would enable them to move on in the present moment not constantly reminded of their trauma/abuses that they had to go through in order to be DID. even though this person is not integrated as a whole they all answer to the new non trauma filled/ trauma reminding name.

i feel for you

hugs..

and it is wonderful to meet you

[flockpride]

We use our legal name since so many people know us by it. But my spouse and T use other names, since they are aware of my process and system. I have not revealed alter names to my spouse, only acknowledged "nicknames" as preferred to the legal name. When people in public use the legal name, it feels like a costume or mask of convention and convenience.

We use the body name. We haven't ever revealed any of our alter names to anyone till recent. I know them by feel. To look legit, we all respond to the body name, even though the original disappeared years ago. We have a self image problem so we stay co -conscience, the best we can. I've had peeps swear we've met before, but couldn't tell Ya, or I got an exact twin some where.

Im still scared of telling a T about all this. Like I said, we always had an image problem.

To answer your question, I lke to be known by my name on here. I'm Susie

[D. girl]

We all have our own names, people outside my head know me as my born name or the chort if it; Lilly. My alters call me Paradox. The name came from the dominant one, D. She said that since we are all so different from I (I = me) it makes us all be a paradox. To seem the same but not actually been the same.
Only my fiance knows this "calling" from my alters, since he has learned to identify us. We are all conscious to keep our life hidden from others, so we all respond to MY name. (I will like my real name to remain private).

-Paradox

Call me AC2 because I got no choice because I'm not always Susie! :'(

Originally Posted by D. girl

We all have our own names, people outside my head know me as my born name or the chort if it; Lilly. My alters call me Paradox. The name came from the dominant one, D. She said that since we are all so different from I (I = me) it makes us all be a paradox. To seem the same but not actually been the same.
Only my fiance knows this "calling" from my alters, since he has learned to identify us. We are all conscious to keep our life hidden from others, so we all respond to MY name. (I will like my real name to remain private).

-Paradox

Paradox is a cool name.

i like it a lot

[D. girl]

Originally Posted by shattered sanity

Paradox is a cool name.

i like it a lot

Thank you