Help - my system doesnt like my t's style

so every time my t says we are going to "go talk and see who is feeling that way" i freak out. i never want to do it. so i decided today to "go talk and see who was feeling that way" and have a conference. so we all sat around the conference table, set up ground rules that everybody had to identify themselves before speaking and asked who freaks out when t says this, why, and what can we do about it. turns out three dont like t's approach, the rest understand this is how she is trying to help us. one particularly vocal one feels she has done a great job keeping us safe and resents t for all her efforts in directing us to a safe space when we are triggered in therapy. she doesnt like how t goes on and on and on "babying us" and apologizing to us for things that have happened. the plan is to tell t what came out in our conference but in doing so, we are caught in a catch 22 because then she will have this need to apologize to the parts for upsetting them, the very thing that upsets them. we are struggling on how to tell t without her thinking we are mad at her or that she has done something to upset us. they just dont like it, they dont need an apology, they just want it to stop. any ideas?

I'm sorry, that's got to be so hard! I have no suggestions because this goes beyond my field of expertise, but I hope that what ever difficulties that your alters have with your T are soon resolved for a speedier recovery.

Is it possible to take a copy of what you have written in this thread and give it to your T so they can understand what your parts are not happy with?

Can you tell your t that you have something to tell her but she has to agree not to apologize after what is said is said.

I think that would be the best approach actually. I think I'm going to start by asking her if she realizes how much she apologizes to me. Thanks for the responses

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Ok, I know I'm late on this one but I wanted to share. When I was in therapy, my T would always ask, 'And how are you feeling?' You know what! That seriously triggered me every single session for about a year! I couldn't really understand why at the time, I did figure it out in the end though. Anyway, I had to ask T to find a different way to ask how I was, it took huge courage for me to do that at the time but I am so glad I did because from that point onwards he never asked the question in that way. It meant that I was no longer triggered at the start of the therapy sessions. Must have been real hard for a therapist to change the wording. Lol!