My T just off handedly mentioned we should talk about my anger issues soon. He likes to set goals, fine with me. It's the accomplishing the goals I don't like! I joke a lot. Usually distracts people from the topic I'm uncomfortable with. So I jokingly said ok I'd try to come up with some. Since we r DID + have an alter named angry one he knows about, I'm not denying there r issues. I'm scared how one goes about 'talking' about it in a session. Would anyone be wiling to share how they dealt with it?

[Kiya]

hmmmm... good question.... we also try to hide it.. But like you we've an alter or two that harbor a lot of anger. The younger one is more emotional about it but tries to shut it down; the older one lets it out as sarcasm which has a lot less bite than it used to - once we realized how much words can hurt. Back then (long before therapy) we also had uncontrollable rage... blind rage. I'd try to contain it for so long and then BOOM! it was like an explosion. Once it got away from me, I had no control, and that really scared me. I finally learned to internally grab it (dunno how - just did it one day when I could feel it escalating).
But talk about it? We also deflect.... My newest T noted on day 2 "There's a lot of anger there". We denied it and tried to bury it. T's trying to draw it out but it scares me. I don't feel like I can control it and I don't want to turn into a thunderstorm, with lightning frying anything it touches.
Can you post what you learn as you go? We could learn together.

Kiya, yea I guess that's what I'm afraid of. Talking dispassionately would be fine. Don't think that will happen. So concerned about putting the genie back in the bottle at end of session + what happens when we leave. Now I'm hoping he'll have a different topic for the session. But basically I just want to be a little kid, stomp my feet + say I don't what to😡. Will let u know. We have no appointment next week.

[Kiya]

Can you ask for having time to get grounded at the end of sessions before leaving? I also need to work on that one.

I have an alter named The Angry One. He makes his opinion known at the most wrong time. He just explodes out of us if they're is something we truly really don't like, so he takes it upon hisself to let it be known. We have him underguard because he gets totally out of control. He's mean.

I really don't or nor anyone else wants to talk to him. He's not nice, he's very scary. He's not like going to be controllable, even in a therapy type setting. He runs hand in hand with Destructo, the therapist better have a taser.

I have two insidrs that are extemely angry and one of them is very mean. When t talks to them, they get into a lot of arguments and fights with t. T stands her ground and figts right back. Which is exactly what they need.
We always get grounded back to a calmer person after they are out, although one time T and one of the angry ones both slammed the phone down and hung up on each other once during an argument