[peaches100]

What does a t mean when they say, "Ask that part not to blend with you?" or they say, "Try not to let that part blend with you." Are they trying to keep you in control so you can manage the system?

[healingme4me]

Would seem so, based upon your description.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by peaches100

What does a t mean when they say, "Ask that part not to blend with you?" or they say, "Try not to let that part blend with you." Are they trying to keep you in control so you can manage the system?

when my treatment providers said something like this is was when I was trying to deal with something but could hear and feel what was going on with the alter.

example my therapist and I would be talking about an intimate problem i was having and suddenly i would feel a bit foggy minded and could tell my alter Trixie trying to take over.

therapist.... you are not all here whats going on?
me...it scares me to talk about that, Trixie is close.
therapist ...Can you tell her to take a step back, that you dont need her help, not to take over, just step back enough so that you can keep your emotions and view point separate from hers for the moment?
me..Not sure, never dont that before.
therapist...Will you give it a try?
me.. ok here goes...(my thinking to Trixie.... you need to let me do this, I can do it, step back so that I can do this, I cant focus when you are so close. Trixie thinking to me..you are a giant pain in....me thinking to Trixie think what you want, back off for a minute)
me...I feel better but dont know how long it will last.
therapist ok take some deep breaths, look around the room and count how many things that are green in the room...(I do) ready?
me..yes Im more grounded now and cant feel Trixie so close.
therapist... good

then we go back to talking about the triggering topic only this time i am the one saying whats going on and how its affecting me, why its so triggering. During the conversation Trixie is also adding her input but doing so by thinking to me (using limitted co consciousness so that I do not get overwhelmed by the emotions associated with that past memory contained with in Trixie, that was mixing in with the present situation.)

[finding_my_way]

i had my psychiatrist say something to me like remind myself i am in control, i am me, etc. i guess as a similar way of not 'letting' things take over, grounding myself, etc. i am not 100% sure..i didn't ask...