I asked T for a message

Last night I had T, and later I had an idea...I don't think the Others thinks she exists outside of T and since some started to talk...there's no connection outside of that one hour a week.

I left T a voice mail asking if she'd leave a message for them. Then got all unsure of myself and hung up. I don't know if she'll follow though. I hope so. They got so much comfort from heraring her say in session a week ago that she wanted and looked forward to speaking with them.

Sigh...we wait.

That's good that they are comfortable with the T. Awesome!

my alters had their own way of being, in other words their own jobs, purposes reasons for being created. what this meant was anytime I dissociated the alter that took over was the one that handled what ever was causing me to dissociate. for example..

if I was feeling sad the alter that was my dissociated sadness\depression took over.
if I was feeling over stimulated with happiness my happy alter Sunny would take over.
if intimacy was what was causing me to dissociate Thelma would take over...

in reference to therapy and my therapist well it was the same inside therapy as outside. my alters were taking over since before I was 5 in all aspects of my life, my having DID was not a situation of alters not taking over inside or outside therapy. they were created for a reason..to handle what ever trauma's, emotions, situations that I could not handle.

I didnt worry about whether my alters liked or did not like my therapist, I didnt worry about whether my alters felt my therapist existed in or out of therapy. their taking control depended upon dissociation, which Im guessing is why DID is listed as a dissociative disorder)

what Im saying is to me when my alters were not taking over during therapy or outside of therapy I could be assured that I was doing ok, that what ever was going on in therapy or my life, that I had the tools and know how to handle it with out dissociating, which of course is what therapy is for right, to gain stability and the ability to handle my problems with out dissociating to the abnormal levels.

another thing about my system was they have been taking control since before I was 5 and even knew they existed. this tells me that they know what to do when they need something. they got us all to adulthood right so I figured if they wanted something from anyone including my therapist they would find a way to let my therapist know that just like they did even before I knew they existed and was happening all my life before being diagnosed.

maybe like me, its not a situation of where your alters know or dont know your treatment provider exists, maybe its a situation where you and your alters have healed to the point where your alters know you have the ability to handle what ever situations that in the past you would have dissociated and now you are not.

my suggestion would be keep working with your treatment providers and this situaiton will probably work its self out just like it has all the rest of your life any time your alters needed anything.

Thanks everyone. My head has hurt for days.