When I start thinking about what an others day is going to be like, or what details are involved in their specialties, I feel stressed, anxiety, my chest starts to hurt, my stomach feels queasy, and I have to quit.

It's like trying to access their "frame of mind" and memories. This happens to all of us. I can sorta see it, but I can't "grasp" it.

It's so tiring and it hurts.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by AlwaysChanging2

When I start thinking about what an others day is going to be like, or what details are involved in their specialties, I feel stressed, anxiety, my chest starts to hurt, my stomach feels queasy, and I have to quit.

It's like trying to access their "frame of mind" and memories. This happens to all of us. I can sorta see it, but I can't "grasp" it.

It's so tiring and it hurts.

I never had to think about what the others jobs, purposes reasons for being was. each one had their own and took care of things when they were in control. that meant when I was back in control there was what my treatment providers call "evidence" of what their jobs purposes, reasons for being was....

example if I came back to awareness and control and found a blanket on the sofa I knew rainy had been in control. if i went to work and a co worker asked me if I was ok because the day before I seemed to have been short, impatient with her, I knew red was in control....

another way I knew what my alters jobs, purposes, reasons for being were was through daily journals, art work, and talking with my treatment providers..

my point rather than stress yourself out with trying to figure it out look for the evidence.

Also by reading your past posts I can see your system is quite co conscious, maybe ask the others that you are aware of, to do this all you need to do is say or think a question and with co consciousness you can get answers.

another suggestion for those you are not at this moment co conscious with...write on the computer, in a journal or in a paper bound notebook your questions and leave it someplace where you know your alters will look at it.

talk with your treatment providers, they can help you with a project where you and your treatment provider can make a family tree or flow chart (other locations may call this mapping) of your alters.

read your past posts. sometimes peoples alters post on psych central, so read all the posts made using your user name. that can also tell you who is who and what their jobs, purposes reasons for being created are.

there are lots of different ways you can communicate with your alters to find out information about how your internal system of alters are comprised including what each alters jobs, purposes, reasons for being are.

Thanks you for that. I think I'm trying to own their memories, their essence, the things they do...trying to cross and fill in the void. I just want to be whole.

What's frustrating is that it feels like I'm the only one here that cares about all this. The others just dismiss it.

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We'll be all right, she's young, much more emotional and less accepting. It's easier to just accept this for what it is and move on....dealing with it as you go instead of questioning every action, thought, feeling, emotion, oddity,...

We really don't sign our work because sometimes it's a collaboration mid sentence penned by different authors. One may start but an other might finish. It's weird how words, thoughts, sentiments, emotions, and feelings can effect a trigger mid sentence- It's like surprise! You are live! Ugh!

Most of us don't have known names because there's quite the crowd here. Yes, we are co-conscience enough to function, or we might have needed to be spoon fed. Not funny, lucky us.