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#1
Dec 27, 2015, 11:31 PM
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Ben watches porn, he listens to bad music like Katy Perry, he doesn't pray like he should. I'm really getting tired of it. My name's Katie, and I am trying to put Ben together. He is a mess. I try to protect him, but he's been doing his own thing without us. Well now I do have control and I need some help with Ben. How do I stop his immoral behaviors and make him go to church?
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Dec 28, 2015, 12:00 AM
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Are you serious? You are writing this in the wrong place. We are barely allowed to talk about religion here. Even if we were, not everyone is Christian and no one would ever try to force anyone to attend religious services. We tend to believe that the choices a person makes about religion are their own, not something that someone has imposed on them. Also, who is Ben in relation to you? Your son? Your nephew? He must be quite young since you have such control over him.
You are going to be hard-pressed to find anyone here who thinks Katy Perry is "bad music" - unless that means bad taste. You might want to find a forum that caters to Christians who believe that other people's lifestyles and degrees of piety are somehow their business. Sent from my SM-G920T using Tapatalk
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Dec 28, 2015, 12:06 AM
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Tell the others that Ben really needs to work with everyone during a therapy session, with a therapist.
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Dec 28, 2015, 12:17 AM
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Um, I'm sorry, I think. When I commented on this topic I didn't realize that it was dissociative disorder. Afterward I saw another post by the OP about getting out of prostitution. I didn't realize that "Ben" was another personality. It's hard to tell from this post without recognizing the name and knowing the OPs history. I thought it might be a troll.
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#5
Dec 28, 2015, 02:28 AM
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The same rules apply. Whilst Katie probably means well, she could try harder to accept Ben as he is and not enforce her religion on him. Apart from Katy Perry. No one should have to go through that. Theres a bit of me that loves Katy Perry too, and its just embarrassing
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Dec 28, 2015, 05:36 AM
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Sorry I just realized what she posted. I had been dissociating. This has happened on facebook before too.
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Dec 28, 2015, 05:53 AM
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That was really embarrassing though. And yes I will occasionally go to church because I know that's what Katie wants, plz don't think I'm crazy. I try to go the middle route with her. And as for the porn, she had no right to say that in front of everyone. It doesn't happen that much. This is why I'm going to a treatment center in Florida for 60 days. They specialize in trauma and DID. But that was unfair to me. ugh. lol. I hope they can deal with Katie there, or at least help.
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Dec 28, 2015, 05:53 AM
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My name is Ben btw and this is the real me.
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#9
Dec 28, 2015, 08:24 AM
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Hey that's kewl dude. My others get on here all the time, mof, this account belonged to Suzy, but Shelly took it over, but here I am- Steve trying to get Monday morning going.
All these parts are all parts of the same whole. Even though they are independent in thought and opinion, they are just different versions of me as I see it. We have a part that loves church, that's fine, she goes when we are environmentally inspired because that's her thing. She's learned that religion is more attraction then promotion....what worked for one may not work for another.... One needs to grow up and realize that one's opinion is just that, one's opinion and forcing it on others is wrong. Your other, Katie, sounds quite young...she lots to learn. We are all equal in this system, but follow a centralized theme....well...we did...but we've melted since we recently came out of denial...we lost cohesion. Now we're grasping. Good luck in the hospital. Let us know how it goes. Florida is just a skip and a jump from here. |
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Dec 28, 2015, 08:46 AM
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Hi, Ben ...
 As embarrassing as some of your alters may be for you, embrace all of them because they have helped you to survive and to make it to where you are today! That treatment center in Florida sounds awesome & I hope you're able to make some extra good progress on stuff while you're there! Individual therapy is good and when in- patient and group therapy are thrown in to the mix some really marvelous stuff happens! Wishing You & Your Alters All The Best! Sincerely, Pfrog! 
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#11
Dec 28, 2015, 09:22 AM
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Thank you guys so much! Luckily this is still Ben. Well I shouldn't say luckily. I'm very messy, but Katie will clean my whole apartment spotless! lol. And Good Ben used to go and compliment people on the street. I haven't yet figured out why Alex is here. Alex was my cousin who tortured and raped me. But I still have to accept that he's here.
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Dec 28, 2015, 01:00 PM
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Hello,
I disagree with the people who reacted negatively to your initial post. Your concern is related to having a dissociated part of you that doesn't accept the same Christian viewpoint or goals that you have. It makes sense that this would concern you and that you want to discuss it and find ways to deal with the situation. You have every right to want to live a Christian life and adhere to the Bible's moral principles, including avoiding porn and even song lyrics that bother your conscience. I respect you for that. Unfortunately, we live in a world where many people view the Bible as old fashioned, and those who try to live by its standards as rigid or fanatics. Just as non-Christians don't want others to impose their religious beliefs on them, Christians who want to adhere to the Bible's moral principles don't appreciate being told that their beliefs are unnecessary or wrong. It's important to consider, though, that religion is a volatile subject. Some of the people posting in this forum may have been hurt in the past by an experience they had with religion. Since it is triggering to others, feel free to PM me if you want to, and we can discuss it privately. |
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Dec 28, 2015, 01:07 PM
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PS - It's also important to accept that other dissociated parts of you may not have the same knowledge of Bible standards or the faith and conviction that you do. Other parts of you may not be present when you study the Bible or go to church. So don't engage in self-hate or punish yourself for mistakes that you may make when you are dissociated. The important thing is just to do your best to live as a Christian, not to be perfect.
The more that you learn about your dissociated parts and work with them, the easier it will be to feel united in your beliefs and goals over time. Be patient with yourself. And if you are not in therapy with a mental health professional who understands DID or DDNOS, I would encourage you to find one. |
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Dec 28, 2015, 01:57 PM
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Dec 28, 2015, 06:11 PM
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Dec 28, 2015, 07:01 PM
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