I joined a group on FB that is populated by multiples (those that claim they had no trauma (not DID) and the insiders are family (which is kewl)) and that integration isn't all that great.

There is a bunch of commonality there, but also a lot of toe stepping that one has to be careful to not offend. Of course with a new crowd I can't control myself because we go chatty chatty, but not like here before all that craziness from the youngsters polluting the pages.

It's just really interesting to hear so many systems and point of views in one place.

[Scotch]

Originally Posted by AlwaysChanging2

I joined a group on FB that is populated by multiples (those that claim they had no trauma (not DID) and the insiders are family (which is kewl)) and that integration isn't all that great.

There is a bunch of commonality there, but also a lot of toe stepping that one has to be careful to not offend. Of course with a new crowd I can't control myself because we go chatty chatty, but not like here before all that craziness from the youngsters polluting the pages.

It's just really interesting to hear so many systems and point of views in one place.

Really? That's so neat. We're totally on the whole "Integration isn't that great" side of things. We kinda consider the three guys inside of us to be "Family." We also know what its like to kind of get over zealous to some new folks. Almost to the point where we kinda want to start off by saying "We".

It's always interesting to hear how different it is for everyone else than it is for us.

Originally Posted by Scotch

Really? That's so neat. We're totally on the whole "Integration isn't that great" side of things. We kinda consider the three guys inside of us to be "Family." We also know what its like to kind of get over zealous to some new folks. Almost to the point where we kinda want to start off by saying "We".

It's always interesting to hear how different it is for everyone else than it is for us.

I really can't see integration being our thing. We are like so polar opposites with definite opposing point of views. Besides....nobody is ruler in here.

You know...it's a we as a group thing in agreement, or it's I.

Like I want HRT but we want to live in harmony.

Besides, it's our girls turn.

[Scotch]

Originally Posted by AlwaysChanging2

I really can't see integration being our thing. We are like so polar opposites with definite opposing point of views. Besides....nobody is ruler in here.
You know...it's a we as a group thing in agreement, or it's I.
Like I want HRT but we want to live in harmony.
Besides, it's our girls turn.

You can't? We're terrified of it.
We know what it's like having to make sacrifices for each other.
One of us is kind of a sweet tooth so he kind of asks us if we
can buy something like starburst from a vending machine. And we admire the respect he has for the two of us on that. Anyway, we think it's sweet that you folks take turns. What's that like?

Originally Posted by Scotch

You can't? We're terrified of it.
We know what it's like having to make sacrifices for each other.
One of us is kind of a sweet tooth so he kind of asks us if we
can buy something like starburst from a vending machine. And we admire the respect he has for the two of us on that. Anyway, we think it's sweet that you folks take turns. What's that like?

Well, it's mostly a job thing next to a trigger, like the guys go to work, deal with other guys. We gals do everything else like feelings, happiness, family life.

To us integration would be like taking blue clay and mixing it with red clay, you eventually get purple, but what is purple and why did it take so long??? Ewww.
We are hundreds of hundreds of fragments of fragments, parts of parts, sooo...a long time for purple to happen.

Besides this is our normal. Anything other would be scary???

[Scotch]

Originally Posted by AlwaysChanging2

Well, it's mostly a job thing next to a trigger, like the guys go to work, deal with other guys. We gals do everything else like feelings, happiness, family life.

To us integration would be like taking blue clay and mixing it with red clay, you eventually get purple, but what is purple and why did it take so long??? Ewww.
We are hundreds of hundreds of fragments of fragments, parts of parts, sooo...a long time for purple to happen.

Besides this is our normal. Anything other would be scary???

We've never thought of it like that. Thanks for the insight 💕

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I like your post and this talk. It made me smile.

We got one inside and she says no way to integration cuz how what you was sayin about everybody bein so diffrent. She says it would cause mass confussion. Lulz. Lots of us like bein us and we like eachother so yup some of us say no integration to. Then you know what? Some of us say yes integration. Know what them ones been doin? They mesh up cuz they say they better together. Thats ok by us. We dont know what we doin but we dont like sayin for sure one way cuz stuff changes all the time.

We usta have lots and lots of frags in our inside woods. Most of them meshed up with these other ones. That happen 4 yrs ago i think. We aint heard nothin from them since but they still there. One guy says they processin. Thats a long time processin. I like what you say about purple. You sure right about that one. Purple takes forever.

Lots of us like takin turns to. Some be good at one thing then they get to shine plus some of us not so good at stuff so then we dont gotta mess stuff up.

Im sorry i talkin lots but i like this topic know what i think sometimes? You ever hear bout how it take a village to raise a child? I think me and my other ones well we a village raisin ourselfs. Yup.

Im excited for you you find a place where you get to hear lots about how others do there thing. I bet its real intresting for sure.