[Aardwolf]

This one has us stumped.. Alex has been thinking for about it for a while and can't get his head around it (pardon the pun). Does anyone else have genderless others, or others they can't for the life of them fathom who or what they are ?

There is one who takes over when the proverbial hits the fan. This could be anything from a severe recount of emotional trauma, suicidal thoughts, the threat of bodily injury, the death of his best friend and other critical times. When it really matters that he makes it through, they take over.

They never speak, they never voice opinion, they quite literally freeze everything and wait until the danger/trauma has passed, then just as suddenly goes almost without a trace.

We gave them the nickname of Ghost, but simply because they are exactly like one. Come and go, leaving no evidence of being there. They rarely if ever have spoken out. The one time they called Alex's name, Alex shut us all out for hours, and has never spoken about it since.. He refuses to speak with anyone about it.

Bizarre maybe, but any thoughts ?

[woods girl]

I have a part we've been calling Shadow. No speech and not even much movement. I've been told I'm just frozen in place, staring into empty space, and terrified.

[lucidity11]

Originally Posted by ACQPL

This one has us stumped.. Alex has been thinking for about it for a while and can't get his head around it (pardon the pun). Does anyone else have genderless others, or others they can't for the life of them fathom who or what they are ?

There is one who takes over when the proverbial hits the fan. This could be anything from a severe recount of emotional trauma, suicidal thoughts, the threat of bodily injury, the death of his best friend and other critical times. When it really matters that he makes it through, they take over.



They never speak, they never voice opinion, they quite literally freeze everything and wait until the danger/trauma has passed, then just as suddenly goes almost without a trace.

We gave them the nickname of Ghost, but simply because they are exactly like one. Come and go, leaving no evidence of being there. They rarely if ever have spoken out. The one time they called Alex's name, Alex shut us all out for hours, and has never spoken about it since.. He refuses to speak with anyone about it.

Bizarre maybe, but any thoughts ?

Yes, I have a few parts that are not gender specific. They don't identify as either.

[catman8989]

Mine don't really seem to be one or the other.

[Scotch]

Our host hallucinated so bad once that we thought we've developed a homicidal alter. (This was a month ago) Kind of a scary moment for all of us. Nothing seemed to have come out of it and we told our host that we were good. It's just the crazy that gets to us sometimes so you folks aren't alone on that.

[amandalouise]

all my alters were gender female even the animalistic ones. I once asked my therapist the what if I had an alter that had no gender and she had a great answer for that one.. if there is no gender then how is that alter going to use the restroom. then she told me regardless of whether an alter had a gender or not their "assigned" gender would be that of the physical body. example I am female physical body so if any alters told us they had no gender to consider that alter female. I also considered the fact that there was no such thing back when I was a child as the gender standards (trans, gender neutral, cis, f2m, m2f and so forth) even toys and movies, books had genders you knew that dool was a girl because of barbies long hair and you knew ken was a boy because of his hair and clothing, my point back in the days when I was being abused and my alters were being created everything was gendered for a boy or a girl so its pretty normal to me that I didnt have any genderless alters. thats not saying I didnt have any genital less alters. I did have an alter named Barbie and she didnt have what girls have but her gender was still female because back then everything was boy or girls. Barbie didnt need genitals because she didnt eat anything or drink anything and she didnt get sexually abused. she held other types of abuse memories and emotions for me.

[Luce]

It makes sense to me that for some parts having a sense of gender identity isn't important for their function or role. When your life is so freaking hard you have a dissociative disorder it makes sense to not waste precious emotional resources on fleshing out unnecessary features in dissociated self states.
Shrug.

[elevatedsoul]

dont you have to know about gender a little to develop that sense...

demons and angels... do they have gendrs...?

well...... i am no one... i hate being here...

stopping more profane from formulating... identity is hurtful...

[L.P.]

We called ours a place holder or filler. That system member also identified as neither male or female. Xe's function for many years was to step in and occupy the body when the situation at hand was too much for whoever was in the body, since being completely vacant was frequently problematic for us. There were times that having 'someone home' was of the utmost importance. Xe took on that role.

Xe was not the only one in our system who feels no pull to male or female. Several of my system members do not strictly identify as one or the other. That causes them no distress, and we generally do not think much on it. We are what we are.

-Amsterdam

We have male/female and non gendered alts, even a robot.

[TrailRunner14]

There is a part of me that we have called Shadow. It's more on the outskirts, waiting to see if there is a "need" for it to step in. Then it's like I'm not all there.

all of us are female.

their's never been any doubt about gender