this is what we wonder.

has anyone ever (or does anyone now), envy someone else inside?

we envy stacy (our inside therapist)

at least she has some idea of what she wants and seems to enjoy what she does

which is more than can be said for the rest of us who just wish life didn't exist, that we could somehow hide and never be seen.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by shattered sanity

this is what we wonder.

has anyone ever (or does anyone now), envy someone else inside?

we envy stacy (our inside therapist)

at least she has some idea of what she wants and seems to enjoy what she does

which is more than can be said for the rest of us who just wish life didn't exist, that we could somehow hide and never be seen.

no none of my alters were jealous / envious of the others. the way my system was set up was each alter had their own way of being, their own jobs purpose reasons for being, how much control they had that kind of thing that is now called sense of agency here in america. we also dont have the type of treatment system where alters are ranked / prioritized as to which alter was best, which alter is more important which ones are better than the others and such things that used to be called polyfragmented here in america. short version here in america all alters are considered to be equal to the others, they are all needed in order to survive other wise they would not have been created, my point even when dealing with therapy issues none of my alters were jealous/ envious of the others. they just were who and what they are and did , though and said things according to what ever their own sense of agency was.

my suggestion is if this continues to be an issue for your system maybe contact your treatment provider. they will be able to help you to discover why your system needed to have an alter who's sense of agency was to be jealous of others for yours and your systems survival of what ever caused you to become DID. once you know what caused this problem you will know what you need to do to control this problem. if you have co consciousness it may just be a simple have an internal conversation explaining how that alter is important and how / what they add to your system that makes them unique but still just as important as the others in your system.

Where in America do you get your info?I am in America and the terms you use are ones I have never heard of.

Your definition of polyfragmentation is not the same as my America.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by CrispApple

Where in America do you get your info?I am in America and the terms you use are ones I have never heard of.

Your definition of polyfragmentation is not the same as my America.

Answering by pm since this question to me is off thread topic of whether or not posters have alters that are envious of others. sorry to confuse you goning into detail about my own system wasnt the kind that were envious of other alters.

Nobody in our system is envious of another because we each are lacking a normal human trait that an Other possesses...but are lacking themselves...so no attraction there.

But you know...this is just the way we are and it's our normal. I just appreciate that I'm not an emotional wreck like some of the Others. I'm just happy being me. Same with the Others....they got their job and that's there thing.

[Lost_in_the_woods]

I can get envious sometimes. But it's not really about the other parts themselves. It's more like feeling upset of my personal lack of ability. Like I wish I was consciously capable of doing/handling things that other parts can. It comes off as jealousy/envy...but really it's just sadness from the awareness that we may never get to be whole. Judgement based off perceptions of "normal people"... but it's all just negative self image I guess... like I just said in a prior post. I tend to take things a bit too personally...I'm working on it. *sigh*

oh yes we often envy each other. mostly over their talents/ abilities that someone might have that someone else doesnt. for instance, one is a really good dancer-- and i cant dance at all. i am really intuitive- others are not like that. one is an amazing artist- most of us cant draw at all. etc, etc.

[kecanoe]

No jealousy in my system. Or I should say within my system. Maybe no one is all that talented, so no need to be jealous.