Do any of your others resemble your abuser?

One of my others is mean to me and hates my T. He is taking on more and more characteristics of one of my abusers. He uses the same verbal abuse tactics. Does anyone else have an other like this?

Yes I do.

oh yes

1 of my parts especially is particularly creepy
her name is vicky and she's fairly old (the part I mean)

well, 1 of my abusers was called vicky, and believe it or not, she's exactly the same age as vicky the part

ugg it's rather scary if you ask me

thankfully I think the others are... well, their own people

I have a part that scared me when I first started to be aware of her. She was mean to me and one of the little ones, and inside she looked like one of our abusers, even the same age. My T encouraged me to be curious about her and pointed out how her actions were attempts to maintain the anonymity of the system--it bothered this part that I was becoming more aware of them all. I'm glad my T encouraged me like that, because it was true. When I "met" this part, she was extremely upset about her inner appearance- she didn't want to look like that, but it was her job, in a way, to be scary and mean and keep all us other parts from contacting each other, so that buried secrets and memories would stay that way and we would not fall apart. She bawled and cried because she felt all of us hated her. Anyway my T has worked with her on connecting to the present reality that we are no longer in danger and she can learn to function differently. Her appearance has changed slightly over time and she's learning how to communicate nicely, and the rest of us are learning how to have compassion and respect for her.

i'm not sure. my therapist says that one (or two) is an introject, but i cannot recall what the earliest abuser was like. i don't know where this particular part came from, but i know they were there as early (if not earlier) as 7. i guess they can really take on any characteristic of negative/scary influences in general and not necessarily 100% resemble an external person.

some of them though are quite mean and scary. for me, it's hard to know which parts are actual introjects and bits and pieces of abusers and what was more them just being created out of fear, etc.

yes, three or four of them.

Oh yes. They even have the same voice.

The inner world if you know something about it's workings it might be a two way convo happening there making it seem especially disruptive. I gently ask that they keep it beneath us because such and such is trying to have session we won't have the angry background that can get front even if they said we aren't talking to anyone the host or who is front. I think you need to understand that this much of ourselves wasn't needed in the past they just don't think they need to open or think they are still well hiding. It hasn't been a practice so why should this happen really quickly without a lot of work. To expose can embarrass them some alters can be hard sells just like salesman, why the benefits what is it costing us slow to speak.

It might not be ready for the therapist if you are at the point for whatever reason that you can make it scale back on the subject. I think you can see whom it knows and what happened along the way that has it angry. Communication check ya know? Sometimes with us others get edgy knowing they are healing and others aren't for whatever reason they can get alters front on topics that they are ready for. Sometimes it is out of spite other times it is just running into what is running to that is when you need to share what is going well, what is important why this is needed, until it can, if possible get conscious to every aspect.