memory and ways I deal with it....

memory is a strange thing. most children remember nursery rhymes after hearing them a few times. no, my memory problems go beyond the normal. even now when I have children I can not remember a nursery rhyme. most people remember to close the refrigerator door. me nope sometimes I even forget why i was in the fridge to begin with. most human beings remember when they ate last, they may not know the exact time but they know whether they ate their breakfast (whether that first meal was at 5 am or at 5 pm they know they ate at least once today. me nope...

my day is filled with did I remember to do this, did i do that, and where in the heck .....

so why do i have such a bad memory... well it could be because I have dissociation problems, it could be because of my medications, it could be because I have MS, it could be because I have depressive disorders, or trauma and stress related disorders...in other words it comes from many different areas of my life and because of many different reasons.

this is one reason why I like this site. at the moment there are a total of 430,575 members and the list climbs higher every day..

physically it is impossible to know each and every one of those 430,575 members, what they have posted in the past, what their triggers are and who welcomes replies, hugs, thanks, pms, ... and who doesnt.

this site helps out in that area by providing profiles where we can click a members name, read their posts, every time I come on line a huge part of my "jogging my memory" is clicking into members profiles to see who is who and all that.

This site also helps out my memory process in another important way. theres no way for me to know what triggers who and who doesnt want me to reply to them or wants me to reply. wouldnt it be nice if I did not have a dissociative memory problem, a medication memory problem, MS induced memory problem. and had one of those photographic memories, where i could think oh this member doesnt like hugs or that person doesnt like that and this triggers that person...but I dont...

instead I rely on what tools this site supplies.. the ignore list. this is so that if others are triggered by me or something i have said they can take care of their own triggers and I dont have to try and remember out of 430,575 members who is who and who gets upset by what.

bottom line is we cant control who posts what and where each other posts what. There are plenty of people from time to time that I have had to place on ignore in order to take care of my own triggering reactions. I dont expect others to remember what triggers me and that I would rather they not reply to me. I mean come on throw 430,575 people in one room and tell them this person gets upset by that or dont take to this person or that one, are they going to remember... no. so I dont expect others to remember what my problems and triggers are and who should or should not post replies to me.

I place them on ignore this way they get a reminder when trying to post to me that says you are on this users ignore list, you can not reply in this thread.. problem solved.

in my real life I do something similar to this... at work I have various reminder signs that tell my co workers when I am busy, when I am on the phone and other such reminders. I have a co worker that literally wears a hello my name is____ because he got tired of some of us on the job not remembering his name.

At home I have various ways to jog my memory through the use of writing lists, calendars, journal writing...

yes memory is a very strange thing sometimes.

my point is that should i forget someones name or trigger or that they have asked me not to reply to them its not an attack. its just how memory works for some people.

a tip here if you are a sensitive person with lots of triggers, help others out by using the ignore list when you are feeling triggered. thats what its there for. it doesnt say anything about whether you like or hate a person or that you are trying to punish or prevent others from posting. if someone really feels they need to discuss something and you have them on ignore they can make their own threads on the same issue/topic. and its not an attack if someone suggests you use the ignore list. they are just wanting you to be safe and take care of yourself. thats what its there for.

I have found that using the ignore list really helps out my dissociative memory and my dissociative trigger reactions so that Im not taking my problems out on others.

this is a good post.

thankfully, i've only had to use the ignore feature once. it's not so much I don't like using it, more that i like to try and just skip those posts

the same person who you ignored because of something they posted could also help you in a diffrent thread. I mean it's possible

lists and journaling are great to help with memory. I like to use sticky notes too

I get offended too when someone ignores me.

as far as I know, only 2 people ever ignored me. 1 person because well, because they did, and the other person because they didn't like 1 of my comments

but i would love to have a look at who's ignoring me.

just to be curious about it

Hmmmm....maybe that's why my posts go unnoticed?

Oh well

I tried ignore once but it got frustrating seeing only one side of a conversation...so I would un-ignore to catch up reading to make sense of it.

And yes...my memory is shot with all the switching, meds, and past drug/alcohol abuse.

So my iphone is my personal assistant.

yes I know what you mean.. Sticky notes oh my yes my home is littered with them they are also a great memory tool that I use.

when I first came here, i did get offended too but then someone in my real life told me when we were talking about another website... think of the button like that knock at the door and you are head over the sink full of shampoo. you can throw a towel on and answer the door or you can ignore the door and finish shampooing your hair. the phone rings you can run to answer it or you can ignore it and finish watching that movie or reading a book. her point in real life we have many situations where we use ignoring to take care of ourselves so why not online too. she then challenged me to go a whole day with out using the tool of ignoring something and see what happens, oh my I ran out of time to do the things i wanted to and many things only got partially done because I was trying to not ignore anything in my life. this challenge gave me a better view of using ignore and other like features on the internet.

now I use them when ever the websites provide them and I suggest them to others when needed. they really are great tools for remembering to not reply to some people, remembering to take care of my own triggers and self when online.

((((((AlwaysChanging))))) your posts do not go unnoticed by me. Yes I admit sometimes seeing only part of the conversation can get frustrating. how i fixed that and still take care of my dissociative problems by using ignore is that I have discovered if I am not logged in I can see the whole conversation. then based on how I am feeling before I log in I know whether I am in a place mentally where I can take that person off ignore and post a reply or steer clear if I cant remember if that person accepts replies, hugs, thanks and such.

I love this description of ignore.

really good

I miss my good memory.

used to be exilent!

Yesterday I noticed another memory tool that I use....Rhyming. I had a lot to do in very little time to do it with. As I was making my list I realized I was putting things in rhyming order......

pick up milk at the store,
dont forget to get the hinges for the hall door
mop the floor

I also found that I was matching / paring things together using their first letter...
silly Selina's at 4 (always have fun at this place)
dismal drakes for lunches tomorrow (the kids love drakes in their lunch box's)
Pepperoni pete needs more food (my dog loves pepperoni)

I use my 64gig iphone6 reminders, calenders, and notes...if I remember to use it.

I tried voice recording...but the voice freaks me out....