[Solnutty]

Weird thing happened at work, I'm okay, but some of us were frightened.
I work teaching individual kids in their homes.

Possible trigger:

At my session last night, someone rang the doorbell. My client's mom came down stairs and told him not to answer the door, that it was a stranger, then returned back up stairs. So I'm left with this poor kid as the man at the door starts banging on the door and shouting, louder and louder, even rattling the walls for the next 20 minutes. He called my client's name and told him to open the door, at which point this kid thought it was his dad. This guy also shouted that he was going to call the police and other things I couldn't hear. My poor client was so afraid and confused and his mom didn't even come down stairs but just told him to stay with me. So I take him to the playroom and he asked me for hugs, and I kept him focused on some fun activities and comforted him as much as possible. Ugh. Meanwhile, my parts are scared, my breath is shallow, I've got a splitting headache and an upset stomach. Afterward, the kid's mom hardly even acknowledged the event, besides checking to see if the door was damaged (there was a crack in the frame) and giving a glib apology. I also had these fierce protective impulses, like I'm not entirely sure what I would have done if the guy got in the house, yelling like that.

So this evening I'm going back to work, and I haven't been entirely successful at assuring my little ones that everyone will be safe. My supervisor is showing up though, to talk to the mom. Ugh.
I'm not sure what kind of response I'm looking for. I guess anything.

[Solnutty]

Next time I'm going to call the police on his ***, whether the mom likes it or not.

[Solnutty]

I'm surprised we didn't switch. Wondering how likely that might happen in the future, though.

[yagr]

I am so sorry that you were put in that situation. I think that would scare anyone. I know that you may not feel okay, but I think you handled it fine and your plans going forward are healthy.

[Amyjay]

Oh my gosh!! you should never have been placed in that situation!! Have you talked with your supervisor about the situation? They should have a duty to protect you in your work environment. Can you talk with the mother and tell her you are not comfortable with that situation and if it happens again you will not hesitate to call the police?
You handled that very frightening situation really well. it sokay to support your scared parts through it.

[Solnutty]

Update:
My supervisor attended the next session and had a meeting with the mom. If I don't want to work with that family anymore my supervisor will work with me, (but I feel like I don't want to abandon my client, so I'm going to continue working at that home), and it's understood that I'll call the police if it happens again.
I had a T appointment and we talked about it a great deal. I/we feel better about the situation. There are so many things we can do now that we couldn't do years ago. The last session at that house went very well, no weirdness (and that little kid was so happy to see me) so that helps too.
After I got home on the night of all that craziness, though, I actually lost time. That is very rare for us, especially these days. I still can't remember going to bed.

Yes, that crazy incident would throw me off, too. Being in the situation....I would feel endangered and would of called the police, too. It sounds like you handled it very well....

We had an incident at work where a fired co-worker was yelling threatening us....and we dissociated and everyone wanted to do something different- so we are still trying to figure things out. Humans confuse us.

I'm glad that it worked out for your better.