A lot of the alters have normal friends..working alter has friends at work. Ones involved with hobby have friends there etc. Recently have been laid up after surgery. Various friends have graciously come visit. One friend of work alter brought over some food. Hobby alter's friend was visiting. The great cook left & we offered food to remaining friend & fixed ourselves a plate. She gave us a funny look & said 'Thought u didn't eat that'. Have had several such encounters lately. Usually keep friends very separate. But this was very disconcerting. How do you all deal with this? Obviously, nobody knows.

[Amyjay]

I hope you are recovering from your surgery.
I can relate to this. We keep things very separate too. Different parts of us have different interactions with different people. It doesn't work when we meet those people in different settings, or worse yet, when people from two different settings who usually deal with different parts of us are in the same place at the same time. Some parts don't want anything to with some people that other parts interact with. It is all very messy when life doesn't line up like it should. People think we are very moody, run "hot and cold" etc. It makes me wonder how many people who are like that are actually dissociative.

[L.P.]

Historically I have done the keeping people very separate thing as well, even before anyone ever mentioned DID to me, I just did that. I've also always kinda 'embraced the weird', so when I do things that seem odd, it's never really odd because I'm just a weirdo anyhow... it's amazing to me the things people overlook when you're just kinda strange. It's like hiding in plain sight. I've been told I come across as moody as well.... oh you're in a mood today huh... I get that sometimes. People just accept that.

I've passed off contradictions as things like being in an adventurous mood or feeling particularly outgoing, or on the flip side, being tired or just having a down or off day. So yeah, that's what I'd be doing... for like the food thing, I'd respond with something like, yeah it's weird, but it looked really good and I've been craving something like that. Most people readily accept things like that with no problems.

-Avery

[dlantern]

It is rude what if that switched you backed that statement cause indecision. I think I would say, ask who is out influencing be curious not just invalidating especially if a close friend.

[Loose Screw x 2]

How do we deal with it? We just do. We/me/I/us, we find a way to try to juggle it. It isn't easy and we too get uncomfortable when different friends of different alters meet each other because one knows one part of us that others don't and it's very stressful. I have also run across Dan's friends when out for a walk and they want me to stop and talk but, we don't want and feel like we have to be all nice to them and put up with their boring talk until we can find an excuse to get away. I hate lying and I hate liars too but, sometimes you have to do it to get away from some people who are just pests. Dan made the mistake of befriending some Christian dude who likes to talk about himself and you can't hardly get in a word when trying to talk to him and he doesn't listen well anyway so we avoid him now. I can't stand people who act that way and we sometimes catch ourselves doing stuff like that too sometimes but, I think that with us it stems from being ignored as a child and having a need to be heard. Sometimes it's as if nobody hears you or even wants to. But, yeah, we put up with that kind of crap too.

Originally Posted by Amyjay

I hope you are recovering from your surgery.
I can relate to this. We keep things very separate too. Different parts of us have different interactions with different people. It doesn't work when we meet those people in different settings, or worse yet, when people from two different settings who usually deal with different parts of us are in the same place at the same time. Some parts don't want anything to with some people that other parts interact with. It is all very messy when life doesn't line up like it should. People think we are very moody, run "hot and cold" etc. It makes me wonder how many people who are like that are actually dissociative.

Thank you so much. Like the word 'messy world. Yes things are organized and should stay that way!! Thanks you helped

Originally Posted by L.P.

Historically I have done the keeping people very separate thing as well, even before anyone ever mentioned DID to me, I just did that. I've also always kinda 'embraced the weird', so when I do things that seem odd, it's never really odd because I'm just a weirdo anyhow... it's amazing to me the things people overlook when you're just kinda strange. It's like hiding in plain sight. I've been told I come across as moody as well.... oh you're in a mood today huh... I get that sometimes. People just accept that.

I've passed off contradictions as things like being in an adventurous mood or feeling particularly outgoing, or on the flip side, being tired or just having a down or off day. So yeah, that's what I'd be doing... for like the food thing, I'd respond with something like, yeah it's weird, but it looked really good and I've been craving something like that. Most people readily accept things like that with no problems.

-Avery

Thanks Avery....We are going to appropriate your statements!! Right now I think they are accepting my 'moody' being caused by the surgery.Just knowing this is normal...well, you know what I meean! Thanks so much.

Originally Posted by MavriforceK9r

How do we deal with it? We just do. We/me/I/us, we find a way to try to juggle it. It isn't easy and we too get uncomfortable when different friends of different alters meet each other because one knows one part of us that others don't and it's very stressful. I have also run across Dan's friends when out for a walk and they want me to stop and talk but, we don't want and feel like we have to be all nice to them and put up with their boring talk until we can find an excuse to get away. I hate lying and I hate liars too but, sometimes you have to do it to get away from some people who are just pests. Dan made the mistake of befriending some Christian dude who likes to talk about himself and you can't hardly get in a word when trying to talk to him and he doesn't listen well anyway so we avoid him now. I can't stand people who act that way and we sometimes catch ourselves doing stuff like that too sometimes but, I think that with us it stems from being ignored as a child and having a need to be heard. Sometimes it's as if nobody hears you or even wants to. But, yeah, we put up with that kind of crap too.

Thanks..we don't understand how one or the other alter can be friends with a particular person!! Some of our alters have such weird friends! Thanks for letting me know we are not the only one dealing with these encounters. Thanks for replying.

[Loose Screw x 2]

Originally Posted by cavaliers

Thanks..we don't understand how one or the other alter can be friends with a particular person!! Some of our alters have such weird friends! Thanks for letting me know we are not the only one dealing with these encounters. Thanks for replying.

Oh, you're quite welcome. I like to help out any way that I can.