with Halloween/ Christmas/ what ever else coming up, it's hard for a lot of us.. all the memories it brings- or the difficulty trying to be in the present and to enjoy yourself

I just wanted this thread as a safe place... if you are struggling with holiday related issues, let's post in here and support each other

[Amyjay]

This is a great idea. I know I won't experience holiday related issues until holiday time, so then I might need to post in here.

I have all ready started to organize things myself to try and make the holidays.... a little bit special for me as obviously I'll be alone for them.

one of the things I thought about doing was organizing a Christmas choir to come to my door and sing me some carols, however out of the 4 I spoke to, 3 can't do it, and I've just ruined my chance with the 4th because of my low mood

they are going to rebook the date for someone else

We just dissociate through the holidays and treat them like any other day, except it’s just paid time off and the hoopla just doesn’t make any sense.

Getting too emotional or in spirit will give cause for the littles to go nuts and spend all our savings.

[Calla lily12]

I start to panic about holidays (Thanksgiving and Christmas) months before they happen. I no longer have that "little kid anticipation" or the joy and peace holidays are supposed to bring. Last year, I decided to "take back" the holidays. Since there is no birth family, I make my own family. I do have my husband and grown kids, but I now try to include people that otherwise would have no one , along with some friends. It really helped last year and I intend to try to expand it this year.

[Fuzzybear]

((((((( hugs to all )))))))

Holidays suck.

I love the holidays, but everyone else makes it suck.

[-Astral-]

xmas mean my daddys they get us a teady but not sure if my two daddys are ok with each other ...

[Fuzzybear]

I didn’t even have one “daddy” so **** that

[ACrystalGem]

Originally Posted by raging vortex

with Halloween/ Christmas/ what ever else coming up, it's hard for a lot of us.. all the memories it brings- or the difficulty trying to be in the present and to enjoy yourself

I just wanted this thread as a safe place... if you are struggling with holiday related issues, let's post in here and support each other

I'm going to try to 'do' Christmas this year - I usually avoid it as it brings back a heap of bad stuff. I tried to make a list of things Outside Jacq & the alters would like, but I got as far as Gingerbread, when I got upset and started crying. I'm hoping I'll have enough time to get used to the idea of celebrating Christmas, before it actually arrives!

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I didn’t even have one “daddy” so **** that

nor did I.

well, I did (I mean I must have done, right?)

I just never met him and no one likes talking about him.

like I think I've said before though, part of me wishes I did meet him