[___Shadow___]

just wondering if anyone would share what happens that gets them into trouble with themselfs or others. And the why? Thinking if we shared the turn around of events it might help heal more, ya know?
Either that or i'm being twisted again, so if so, sorry.

[kimmydawn]

The biggest thing that got me into hot water or caused people to become frustrated was my lack of continuity between "states".

I think people thought I was lying, and didn't trust me. It hurt.

It affected my relationships and jobs.

KD

[wanttoheal]

Phew, yea same here. I actually used to argue with people because I thought they were playing tricks on me. I was so adamant sometimes that I think I made them think they were imagining things. What made it worse is that they would then say that yesterday (or whenever), after I had argued about doing/saying something, that I would discuss it as having just done it. And yea, people thought I was lying or trying to cover up stuff.

I'm better about it now though I think. Better at tap dancing I guess.

[multipixie9]

I can say for sure that being split does get me into trouble. Being inconsistent and "forgetting" things makes people angry with me or not trust me. Sometimes I would volunteer to do something in a strong part of me and then not be able to follow through when it got down to it because I was in a part without much strength. I got into trouble with people because sometimes we would have a disagreement and that would trigger me to amnesia and I would not remember anything that was said and they thought I was being dishonest or avoiding dealing with stuff on purpose - when I'd lost memory due to fear. I used to be totally afraid of all arguments.

The biggest thing I've done that has had bad effects is that I've told people about being dissociative who were not ready or not able to deal with this fact of my life. I've lost so many friends/ acquaintances that way. Sometimes my parts get this raging desire to be open and to be accepted that they leap before they look and its a disaster.

Recently I've had a part that doesn't want to go outside so every time I made an appointment to see a friend that part ducks out of it at the last minute - did that 3 times in 8 days over a luncheon date. Talk about unpopular!!! That is my most patient friend and it stretched the patience almost to the breaking point.

Don't know if you go through things like this, but I just wanted to try and answer your question. I get tired of "getting in trouble" with others because of being split.

Leah, a frustrated Pixie

[Luce]

Inconsistency hurts us. We can't be the same, or say the same, or believe the same. So who can trust anything we say when we are always so contradictory? Everything we say or do is exposed as a lie.
This is hurting us very badly at the moment. Then it gets messed up even more with programming. No point talking at all.

[multipixie9]

Luce,

I know what you mean about inconsistency. We can't help it and then when people mistrust us it feels like they are being mean to us. We try to be straight with them, but we change and they get upset. It's not our fault. We have to change and deal with it, but we did not choose it, they chose it and put it on us.

I accept you, just as you are! (((((Luce)))))

Leslie and the Pixies