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Old Aug 18, 2008, 09:43 AM
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How do you handle it when part of you doesn't want to go to therapy?

I know little me LOVES therapy. She loves our therapist, loves going, loves being there, misses him when we're not there. And grown up me likes him, thinks going is the right thing to do, knows we should persevere even when we are uncomfortable.

But there is a part of me that DOES NOT WANT TO GO. DOES NOT WANT TO TRUST HIM. Thinks we are a bother and he wishes we would go away. Thinks little me is stupid for trusting him and loving him. This is the me that is going to session today. I can tell.

What do you do when this happens?

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Old Aug 18, 2008, 09:56 AM
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Let that part go and tell t all about it. Wonders could happen there. when everyone doesn't want to go to T?

I'm assuming your t is aware of your parts, and if that's the case, he will welcome this part and the opportunity to speak with them.

Good luck and let us know!

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Old Aug 18, 2008, 09:58 AM
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Just Go.

I would hope the one having trouble trusting the t would come out and talk to the t about it.

I had alters who had absolutely no reason on earth to trust anyone. Either they would come out and be smart mouthed and hostile or more often just hang back and watch and listen. It takes me a long time to trust anyone. Of course it would take my abused alters a very long to time to believe anyone or anything.

I would think your t gets that and would welcome times to talk to the ones who need the most help. They need to know it's OK to be mad, OK to doubt people, OK to be right where they are. They have a reason to be mad and to not trust. That needs to be validated. Under all that tough talk is fear. Fear of being hurt one more time. Why wouldn't they feel that way?

I'm sure your t can handle some anger.

Will keep you in my thoughts,
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Old Aug 18, 2008, 02:44 PM
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(((((((((((((earthmama))))))))))))

Maybe you can agree on some part telling your T about the part or parts that feel so hostile.

Sometimes I have to warn my T that she is going to be hearing from an angry part - and being warned she reacts to them more positively. When I forget to warn her, sometimes she gets more firm with those parts and it freaks them out and they run away and things get all tangled up.

Mostly she does really well with any of us, but just sometimes things go less well.

I know you probably already went before I got on here, but I wanted to just tell you anyway. I hope all went really well today.

Hugs to you,

Leslie and her pixies when everyone doesn't want to go to T? when everyone doesn't want to go to T? when everyone doesn't want to go to T?
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Old Aug 18, 2008, 04:47 PM
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I think things went okay. I guess.

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