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Jan 10, 2005, 10:39 PM
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am I looked at as a protecter, the weak ones need to learn to keep their mouths shut, for there trust in others will get them punished
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Jan 10, 2005, 11:07 PM
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Their trust in others has gotten them punished when you were all surrounded by bad people. There are some people who are not safe, it's very true. But there really are people who are safe. If you (collectively) trust others just a little at a time, and get to know their personalities, and be smart about it, you can stay safe and still have love and trust. You don't have to shut the whole world out to stay safe. You only have to protect from those who mean you harm- that truly is not everyone.
Marie, I know life has been hard for you all. And I do not blame you ONE BIT for being worried about trusting people. I think all of us that have been hurt have that struggle sometimes. You (collectively) have been hurt very, very much. I hope in time you will learn to trust just a little tiny bit at a time until you are sure it is safe. Angela
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Jan 10, 2005, 11:12 PM
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Yes, until everyone learns who they can trust, and how much they can trust, others might need to be quiet.
You can help them by telling them just who they can trust right now, and who you are still watching. Could you do that for them? Maybe write it down so everyone can see and remember? If you know of a specific reason for NOT trusting someone, that would be good to tell them too, I think. What do you think? I bet someone is really friendly and wants all the friends she can find! She might not know about limits to friendship, and maybe doesn't feel the disappointment when someone she thought was a friend "turns' on another/?? I know it's very tough to keep you all safe. But I also bet that what was once needed for safety, well, might not be needed so strictly now?
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Jan 10, 2005, 11:40 PM
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i agree that lots of ppl can't be trusted...for sure. one thing that tracy wrote in journal that she says is an important part of her job is....to let those that we're starting to trust or do trust know what they CAN'T do so they don't inadvertantly (sp?) hurt.
with t, for example, she flat out told him some things he could never do or he would deal with her directly. she said that was important so he didn't "burn" what was starting...trust for the littles. might help there? kd
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