[BeckyC]

I have benn so clueless for so long as to where the time went. Then through therapy found out. But now these others ,have i ignored them for so long or just thought i was crazy and went on.Who are these others that can carry me through so much because i wasn't able too. Was i so weak as a child they came along to save me?

[margthemermaid]

Originally Posted by BeckyC

I have benn so clueless for so long as to where the time went. Then through therapy found out. But now these others ,have i ignored them for so long or just thought i was crazy and went on.Who are these others that can carry me through so much because i wasn't able too. Was i so weak as a child they came along to save me?

You were lucky.

[JudeeB]

What was explained to me was that it wasn't about being weak, it was that I was too young to have developed other coping mechanisms. And only very bright and creative children can use dissociation as a coping mechanism.

Not sure I was consoled by that explanation but I never forgot it.

As I've said a number of times here, my accepting the others and appreciating what they went through was vital to my healing. Negative feelings towards them stir up negative responses.

I have been free of the chaos for over nine years now so there is healing to be found.

Judy and Company

[multipixie9]

they are me and i am them. we are each other's family.

these parts of my own mind somehow defended my sanity against horrors my child's mind and emotions could neither comprehend nor bear.

i finally understand that even though some of them did things that were not good for me or truly acceptable in behavior did it to "help" me to the best of their ability.

i finally grew to appreciate and applaud them. i finally saw that the more i rejected them and treated then meanly that i was doing what my mother used to call "cutting off my nose to spite my face" - doing something that was supremely unhelpful.

these days my real enemy is the recurring desire to go back into denial of my alters and my dissociation. doing that works against the healing process i am pursuing with my system of "pixies". i now devoutly desire to bring love into my sytem of alters and find a way for us to come out of the nightmare of my past and find a future for us all. i seem to be doing that by going 3 stops forward and 2 steps back sometimes, though sometimes i only go 1 step back.

[Ft1980]

I find that sticking to your routine is the best way to di it, but I understand that maybe some don't know what that is so you should just focus on what you are doing right Now and let the rest fall into place!

[wanttoheal]

(((((((((((BeckyC))))))))))))))))) It's all you. My T said one brain but with barriers. The things that cause DID to happen are very traumatic and generally long term. Without it, T and I feel that I would have either died or gone crazy or ended up like the ones who did the events to cause the DID. Given those options, DID is a far better result than the others. It isn't through weakness that one becomes DID. Some people have a propensity to dissociate more than others and combining that with a strength and a will to survive, the end result is sometimes DID. Hang in there. It can get better.

[margthemermaid]

Originally Posted by wanttoheal

(((((((((((BeckyC))))))))))))))))) It's all you. My T said one brain but with barriers. The things that cause DID to happen are very traumatic and generally long term. Without it, T and I feel that I would have either died or gone crazy or ended up like the ones who did the events to cause the DID. Given those options, DID is a far better result than the others. It isn't through weakness that one becomes DID. Some people have a propensity to dissociate more than others and combining that with a strength and a will to survive, the end result is sometimes DID. Hang in there. It can get better.

Glad you feel better. Sometimes when you start to feel real negative I think it may be one of the alters giving you problems. Hope you keep coming to chat. We support eachother.