[Kiya]

totally swapped out all during the week. several times in t last session (t kept me an hour and 45 min because of it) and throughout the week.. then tonight in group i lost another 45-50 min and switched out to 8 yrs old trying to escape group and the t chased us down in the hall and held the door closed to the stairs ( so i was told later).
oh the fun. how can one process stuff when one is not present?!

[Luce]

Kiya....

sorry things are so rough right now.

Have you been able to talk to that eight year old and calm her down at all? Sounds like she could use a friend right now...

[Kiya]

Luce - hmmmm no i haven't. but yeah, she could use a friend. I remember the t last night asked her if we'd brought our stuffie cat "scardie" - she nodded yes. T offered that if she'd sit on the lobby couch (instead of trying to escape out the back door) t would go get scardie (a beanie baby) for her. A very nice offer, but 8 declined. she wanted to escape more than she wanted her kitty. in fact our regular t's beanie armadillo was also in our bag... escape was too alluring.
thanks luce.

[wanttoheal]

((((((((((((((Kiya)))))))))))) That's hard. I'm sorry that is going on for you. Hopefully talking to T will help calm things down. Hang in there.

[multipixie9]

kiya, i can see things are really tough. can i ask you something? how do you feel toward the 8 year old? are you angry with her for "getting in the way" of your therapy?

the reason i ask is because someone asked me these questions when some of my littles were coming out and i was getting angry with them because i thought of them as "interfering with our therapy". i had to make some changes and begin to value my littles and respect their need for help too. when i began to be "kind" to them and acknowledge them, a friction/tension inside lessened and things improved. i really do like and appreciate my littles now. they did an awful lot to help me survive extreme abuse and nightmare situations that blow my mind to this day if i think of them.

that 8 year old is you and you are her. maybe you could embrace her and reach out to her. she probably feels just awful and miserable and she doesn't know that "group" is supposed to help. she's just scared to be out there i think.

hugs to all of you kiya!!!!!

leslie and her pixies

[iamtwilight]

[Kiya]

(((((((((((W2H, Leslie, Twilight))))))))))) thanks
One thing I noticed tonight in one-on-one T, last night's switch was really the first where 8 and I were both "at ease" with her take over. Hard to be at ease in crisis, but for what it was worth, it was emotionally easier than other take overs because I didn't fight her for control and she didn't panic about being out (if that makes any sense - it did to us). So really there was far less emotional hurt than ever before within the fact that there was a takeover. 8 knew she couldn't communicate with group T and really didn't get upset about it (as much as she would have a year ago). So i do see growth here. It just has had the system in chaos - you all know what I am talking about.
ty!

[bipolar_bear]

(((((((((((((((((((((((Kiya & 8))))))))))))))))))))))))

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