[kimmydawn]

How incredibly sad...

i saw my 15 yr old niece for the first time in about 5 yrs (give or take). i watched her switch almost as rapidly as a child playing with the light switch.

same abuser, same life, same disorder...no help, no one to care, no escape.

i will try to make a difference. at that age, no one could have pried our mouths open to tell our secrets. heck, t still can't. t believes, with her history and my seeing what i saw that i am right. all i can do is listen, but how do i keep insiders safe when she talks of the same abuser? how do we keep safe???? it's hard enuf knowing he's 15 mins down the road.

i have no choice. i MUST be there for her. she's reaching out...

God help me with this one.

kd

[SweetCrusader]

(((((((((((kd)))))))))))))

That is SO sad It is quite a load you bear in this life, my dear. Quite a load.

Kd, Is this girl still being abused, presently??

PLEASE keep yourself safe honey

Much love,
Angela

[kimmydawn]

she is no longer living with the abuser (older brother/her father). however, she's living with her mother and step-father...emotionally and mentally abusive. i could write a book on just what i know about her pitiful life. the story is too horrendous and sad. CPS has been involved many times and she always falls thru the preverbial cracks. i've called twice. when she accused her father, she later recanted after her mother very hatefully (and probably abusively) called her a liar. CPS just let it go...just like that.

one positive note...her school counselor is very concerned and seems quite determined to help this child who has massive psychological problems. he said he was going to try to scare parents with CPS into allowing her to attend counseling. i pray for that. she told her counselor about one abuse and he talked with my mother and specifically asked her if there were any other accusations of s**ual abuse. she's still covering for him...she said no UGH! SSDD of the worst kind. the abuse, the head in the sand adults...history repeats itself. i'm thinking of calling her counselor to give him a head's up. i just found out the school that she attends. what do you think about that?

i have to hear anything this child may need to tell me. i did promise her that i would tell no one but my counselor. it gets me off the hook. if i tell t anything and he's mandated to report...well, you know that story.

thank you for caring, angela. i will keep selves as safe as i possibly can. i have asked if any insiders have dealings with niece to please journal them so i'll know. however, i've also asked that i be the only one to deal with any conversations had with the niece.

thank you again.

kd

[SweetCrusader]

kd,

Does your niece know about your abuse history??

[kimmydawn]

i've just lightly gone into it with her. i've not talked with her much since she's been with her mother. they didn't allow it.

i told her there's nothing she could tell me that i wouldn't understand because i've gone thruogh it more than likely. my father, her grandfather, has quite the rep, so she already knows that we all had it rough with him. i told her that i lived in fear and know what it's like to have bad ppls in family...general things.

kd

[h0kie]

Kd, I am so sorry to hear this. You are both in my thoughts.

Is there anyway the school can forse her parents to take her to therapy. I know of a suit against a school by the child's parents where the school counter-sued in order to get a court order for the child to receive help.

Her school is involved...that is good. They can help her. Do what you think is best. She'll appreciate it in the future.

Take care of the group of you.

[kimmydawn]

thank you, 1day. yes, the counselor said that he's going to pressure parents alot to allow her into therapy

thank you again,

kd

[SweetCrusader]

kd,

In that case, I think it might not be a bad idea to let the counselor know about your history. It might help.

((((((((kd))))))))))

[kimmydawn]

yes, true. she's 15 and there are certain things that i can't tell her. however, if i show counselor his history, well, he might put even more effort into this child.

ty, angela

kd

[SweetCrusader]

((((((((((((kd)))))))))))))))))

[kimmydawn]

ty ((((((((((((((((((((( angela ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

[RhysMadison]

This is sad! I am sorry to hear she's going thru the same thing. Have you tried social services to report it? I don't know if somebody else already said that in here.
Love,
MarinaJoi

[kimmydawn]

Rhys,

she actually told and when confronted and disbelieved, she recanted CPS didn't even question any further. that was it. the end. she's suffered so much abuse from every caretaker she's ever known i can't believe she has the wherewithall to even attend school (even though she still has accidents sometimes at school and she's 15). she's so disturbed and it's so sad.

however, she's amazingly intelligent and a gifted singer who has taught herself to play keyboard. she writes very good poetry and even wrote a song and a book already! it's amazing. she's amazing.

thank you for caring,

kd

[kimmydawn]

i'm hoping my neice will keep calling me. her mother knew she was talking with me a few days ago and now no more calls. i'm worried that she's not letting her call like before. her mother knows that i called CPS a few years ago and wouldn't let her talk to me unless she snuck.

it's only been a couple of days since i've talked with her so many she's just being the typical outgoing, busy 15 yr old? somehow, i don't think so.

i'll let y'all know when she calls me again. i know she did try to call the day before yesterday, but i was gone i hope the plug hasn't been pulled on her being able to talk with me. hope with me?

love,

kd

[wisewoman]

kimmy, I am thinking about you and your neice. You can continue to HEAR her. I hope she is okay and I am sending her all of the love and energy I can muster! I wish her peace.

[silver_queen]

Kimmy, if she has been forbidden to ring you... maybe she can write letters to you instead?

[kimmydawn]

that's a thought, silver. she's very good with writing. she did call yesterday. she just talked about every day things. she told me that she's been thinking alot about the counseling because of things i've told her, and she called up her counselor from old school and thanked her for helping her so much and for caring. she said her old counselor cried, and then my neice sang the song the she wrote. she said her old school counselor cried harder.

she said she made an appt for her school counselor she has now and is going to tell him that she's ready for therapy. ayayayay.

thanks again, silver. and everyone.

kd

[wisewoman]

Kimmy, I am so glad to hear this. I am sending love to neice. Can we know her first name?

[kimmydawn]

thank you, ww. her name is britanny nicole.