[soulfulgrrl]

i dont know what is going on with my gf atm but things aren't good. i just want her to love me. i want her to support me. i just don't think she can at this time. i feel all alone. overwhelemed and completely isolated.

[notz]

Hello Soulfulgrrl,

I'm sorry you're feeling sad, confused and scared. It's good you are able to talk about it. You know there's lots of support for you here. You don't have to feel all isolated.

Have you tried talking to gf? I bet she does love you bunches but you may be right that she can't handle it all. Do you think you could if you were in her shoes? Relationships are never easy, they take "working at it" to a whole new level!

Maybe she could use a little tlc from you. Maybe she's a little worn out and could use some of that love you'd like to have. Couldn't hurt, right?

Remember you are NOT alone and if you're isolated - you can fix that. Let us hear from you more.

notz

[Jewels]

Dear Soulfulgrrl,

I agree with Notz. Living with someone with DID is difficult to say the least. My ex could not compete with the war inside, and left us because he didn't get enough kudos from us, enough love from us, enough of anything from us. We just couldn't do it. It is difficult to even love ourselves.

Have you tried to talk with her and see what she needs? Sometimes now when I am wanting someone to love me, to focus on me, to support me, I first look at what I am dealing with, and then look at what they are dealing with, and then sometimes not say anything because I don't want their lives more complicated with my needs. I am quite sure your gf loves you and appreciates all you do for her. She just isn't sure she can give more when she is already dealing with so much herself.

When we feel lonely, confused, overwhelmed, and abandoned, we take it to the streets and find someone who's needs are greater than ours, and find strength that we didn't know we had. We can always find someone who's needs are greater than ours, so we feel good when we can just sit and listen to someone else, be there for someone else, especially when all else is crumbling around us. Try going around your gf more, attend to her needs a bit more, and try to be happy that you are together. What you need can be found here among friends. You know that because you come here for help. Let us help you help her, and you will feel better in the process. Talk to us more and let us talk to you.

Beth of Jewels

[soulfulgrrl]

Originally Posted by TheJewelsofEagles

Dear Soulfulgrrl,

I agree with Notz. Living with someone with DID is difficult to say the least. My ex could not compete with the war inside, and left us because he didn't get enough kudos from us, enough love from us, enough of anything from us. We just couldn't do it. It is difficult to even love ourselves.

Have you tried to talk with her and see what she needs? Sometimes now when I am wanting someone to love me, to focus on me, to support me, I first look at what I am dealing with, and then look at what they are dealing with, and then sometimes not say anything because I don't want their lives more complicated with my needs. I am quite sure your gf loves you and appreciates all you do for her. She just isn't sure she can give more when she is already dealing with so much herself.

When we feel lonely, confused, overwhelmed, and abandoned, we take it to the streets and find someone who's needs are greater than ours, and find strength that we didn't know we had. We can always find someone who's needs are greater than ours, so we feel good when we can just sit and listen to someone else, be there for someone else, especially when all else is crumbling around us. Try going around your gf more, attend to her needs a bit more, and try to be happy that you are together. What you need can be found here among friends. You know that because you come here for help. Let us help you help her, and you will feel better in the process. Talk to us more and let us talk to you.

Beth of Jewels

you are right... i just got to be thankful i have someone and deal...

[Jewels]

We know it isn't easy. never say that it is. because you know too that it is sometimes the hardest thing to do. we just want to encourage you to take it as it comes, not get too stressed out about it, and then come here and vent when you need to, or when you just need to talk about it, like you just did. just be gentle with both of you and things will be ok.

Beth of Jewels