[Eljay]

Do you guys out there think that dissociation can be developed by the following?Among other things, of course.
Firstly, I am very thankful for the wonderful, caring parents I have. I can't work and I live with them. My mom is my best friend. But now this: she is very perfectionistic. Personal appearance is very important to her. She is a beautiful woman. Since I was a child, I always felt like I was in her shadow. She cares a lot about what other people thinks. This made me an anxious child. When I was 13, I became rebelious. I made friends with the prettiest girl in my class. I have to say I'm attractive myself. But when I was 13, I wasn't sexually mature yet and looked very young. I became involved in the usual sex, drugs and rock and roll culture at an age that was too young for me personally. I felt I had to keep up with my friend. I started becoming obsessed with looking in mirrors to see if I measure up. Though I looked good, I still looked like a child. My friend looked older. Today, still looking young, although I'm 39, I can't stand mirrors. I don't see the right picture. My face feel detached from my body and I suffer a lot from agoraphobia and shyness. I wish I hadn't grown up so early in life. I don't blame her, because I love her, but do you guys also think my mother and friend played a role in my developing dissociation?

[Hunny]

(((((((((( Eljay ))))))))))))

You said about your Mom: "she is very perfectionistic...she cares a lot about what other people think..."

You have said about yourself: ...I started becoming obsessed,...I can't stand mirrors...my face feels detached from my body and I suffer a lot form agoraphobia...

There does seems to be some correlation here. What have you said to your therapist? Are you making progress?

Keep posting and reading.





.Hunny

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Eljay

Do you guys out there think that dissociation can be developed by the following?Among other things, of course.
Firstly, I am very thankful for the wonderful, caring parents I have. I can't work and I live with them. My mom is my best friend. But now this: she is very perfectionistic. Personal appearance is very important to her. She is a beautiful woman. Since I was a child, I always felt like I was in her shadow. She cares a lot about what other people thinks. This made me an anxious child. When I was 13, I became rebelious. I made friends with the prettiest girl in my class. I have to say I'm attractive myself. But when I was 13, I wasn't sexually mature yet and looked very young. I became involved in the usual sex, drugs and rock and roll culture at an age that was too young for me personally. I felt I had to keep up with my friend. I started becoming obsessed with looking in mirrors to see if I measure up. Though I looked good, I still looked like a child. My friend looked older. Today, still looking young, although I'm 39, I can't stand mirrors. I don't see the right picture. My face feel detached from my body and I suffer a lot from agoraphobia and shyness. I wish I hadn't grown up so early in life. I don't blame her, because I love her, but do you guys also think my mother and friend played a role in my developing dissociation?

from what I was told dissociation is there already in everyone from the day you are born. examples of dissociation - spacing off, daydreaming.

do I think it can develop from your moms problems being put on you. anything can happen. Some dissociation disorders dont require severe abuse just depends on your own coping mechanisms other dissociation disorders in order to have it you have have a family history of extreme physical, emotional and sexual abuse starting at a very young age of under 5 years old.

but I cant say whether or not a dissociation disorder and which one developed just by reading your post. Im not your doctor and psychiatrist. you have to take some tests with your doctors and a psychiatrist to find out that.

[WePow]

(((( safe hugs )))) It does sound like you might benifit from talking with a therapist about this. What was done to you at that age was wrong. Period. And it is a serious trauma. You now are able to move through these pains if you want to do that. Happy healing to you!!!