[catatonicmania]

She hates to be talked about. as I am writing this she is yelling for me to stop. does anyones others act this way?

[Elysium]

Yes!!

I have a couple alters that don't like to have information about our system given out. They constantly tell me to keep quiet, and if I start getting to close to really sensitive stuff, my 12 year old bully can get down right nasty...but that's part of her protective role; fight till the death and if you're gonna go down...go down fighting.

This was really difficult for me when I first became aware of my alters, but it has eased some since then.

You're not alone in this!!

[Miri]

Sorry, I feel i must clarify ... do you mean another part of you, or do you mean a real life partner?
If it is another part of you, then perhaps that parts needs/ wants to have voice, not necessarily here - any piece of paper will do, tape recorder, talking to T, drawing, etc. Do you know why this part wants to silence you - i mean that's a common theme of protection that usually isn't necessary anymore, but it is something to be worked through and negotiated. If that part doesn't feel safe, it isn't likely you will find peace when you try to speak. In the end, only you can figure this out using your own inner wisdom.
I'm sorry you are in the midst of a struggle; it's hard. Give and take, patience and just time will all contribute to healing. Wish you safe journey.

[catatonicmania]

Originally Posted by Miri

Sorry, I feel i must clarify ... do you mean another part of you, or do you mean a real life partner?
If it is another part of you, then perhaps that parts needs/ wants to have voice, not necessarily here - any piece of paper will do, tape recorder, talking to T, drawing, etc. Do you know why this part wants to silence you - i mean that's a common theme of protection that usually isn't necessary anymore, but it is something to be worked through and negotiated. If that part doesn't feel safe, it isn't likely you will find peace when you try to speak. In the end, only you can figure this out using your own inner wisdom.
I'm sorry you are in the midst of a struggle; it's hard. Give and take, patience and just time will all contribute to healing. Wish you safe journey.

I meant the voice in my head that is not my conscience. She does not like when I write about her either. I need to see a therapist soon. Thanks for your concern.

[Miri]

Originally Posted by catatonicmania

I meant the voice in my head that is not my conscience. She does not like when I write about her either. I need to see a therapist soon. Thanks for your concern.

okay, thanks for that. Alters can be very shy and self-protective for good reason. they were created for safety. Just take your time. I'm glad you are seeking a therapist. Make sure the person feels safe and has some experience. Take good care, wishing you warmth and caring