So I went to therapy today and teen totally took over. I am pretty much co-conscious with her and I could watch it all happen but I was powerless to control it. I remember what started it, I think. Not that it matters.

Anyhow, her job is to keep me isolated (and therefore, safe) and she gave it her all, pushing T away, talking about how stupid therapy is, etc., etc. T and I always hug after appts. She wouldn't hug him. He always leaves me voice mails after appts, but I have to call and tell him what I need. She won't let me.

T and I are usually super, super connected. Now I can't feel that connection at all. I think I hate him.

I feel like I am mostly in control, but like I can't wrench this power away from her. She's just totally taken over with T.

What can I do? God, i am SO irritated.

It is SO LOUD IN MY HEAD. can someone help me. i would usually call t but apparetnly we're NOT TALKIGN TO HIM.

[pegasus]

The teenager is allowed a voice and T will totally understand. Give her a little time out. Does she like a certain type of music? Put that on for a bit and let her express herself. Know that she is ok, she's probably been through a lot and just needs some space for a bit.

((((( treehouse and all )))))

((( Treehouse )))

Maybe you need to ask Teen Tree why she's so pissed at T.

Ask her to help you understand why you're "not talking to T" and see if she can explain it. If she can't tell you with words, maybe she will draw it for you.

There's a reason she's so mad. I bet no one has ever asked her before.

[Luce]

Hi treehouse. I know it can be really hard when others take over and kinda 'smash' what we know as our reality to smithereens. Sounds like she and her feelings are right up front right now. I sure know how uncomfortable THAT can be.

So, I guess you have two options here... you can fight it, and try to make that reconnection with T... or you can let her just be how she needs to be for a bit and wait til her 'stuff' settles down.

Whichever way you go... know that you are T are cool, right? Even tho your usual connection has been pushed aside by her at the moment, you and T are still cool and will reconnect as soon as teen cools down a bit.

This could be an opportunity to get to know the teen a bit more. See what makes her tick, what she likes, what she doesn't like... what she needs and wants. It also could be a chance for her to get to know T a bit better.
Being able to understand just WHY she needs to isolate and push away could also be a chance to understand your own triggers a bit more.

She sounds kinda spunky. Parts of me are kinda nodding their heads and going "yeah... cool". LOL. I guess they 'get' it.

Thanks everyone...

I am feeling more "me" this morning. Just kind of horrified by yesterday. I think I've managed to get teen quieted back down.

Luce - I smiled when you called her "spunky". That was a nice word to read.

[Miracle1986]

(((Treehouse)))

[Rhapsody]

Does your T know what is going on? - that it is her that feels this way and not you.... if he doesn't know please inform him ASAP - write a note if you have to (i use to do this with my T when I didn't want an alter to know what I was doing).

[iamtwilight]

there's nothing more i can say what everyone else has said above - just sending a lot of positive thoughts and strength to your end.

twilite

ps. sometimes teens act out because they are feeling bad/ignored/etc. watch a typical teen movie and you'll know what i mean

[Eriksplus]

Originally Posted by iamtwilight

there's nothing more i can say what everyone else has said above - just sending a lot of positive thoughts and strength to your end.

twilite

ps. sometimes teens act out because they are feeling bad/ignored/etc. watch a typical teen movie and you'll know what i mean

yes...teens are rebelious as well!
Erik