[BandE]

My gal and I broke up last November. We had dated for four years and been through quite a bit together. I wouldn't compare it to anything a couple of greater length might have to go through, but ups and downs none the less. Her family was not fiscally smart; for a nine month period they lived in a hotel and nearly became homeless. My undiagnosed problems took a tole on things.
Because of my own disorders and mental health I grew bitter at the world and eventually pushed her away. I started getting professional help late in December. For over eight months now I dream every night of her and wake to nothing. I saw her and her new boyfriend last night for the first time and they laughed at me. I'm not competely sure what to right here, just thought I would give it a try.

[jerrymichele]

I would just let her go. When they were laughing at you I think was meant as an insult. The best thing to do is not feed into the games like this. I would move on and date other people. Hope this helps.

[eemapq]

If you love something let it go, if it comes back it was ment to be, if you never see it again it was ment to be free.

You let this girl you are so madly in love with go. Know how much you loved her and all you have gone thru with her. If she still loves you then she will come back. Let her see you doing good things with your life. Don't sweat the small stuff, and don't wait for her. Go on with your life.

I had friend who broke up for almost a year. They both tried to date other people and they were both unhappy. They finally found each other again and have been together for 2 years, going to be wed next summer.

She could be laughing at you with her boyfriend to hide the hurt she is feeling.

Keep your chin up!!

[neednewlife]

Letting go is sooooo hard. Stay strong. Take one day at a time and stay strong. I am going through a divorce and have to live with my husband, who wanted the divorce, so i can symphathize with how hard letting go is... One day at a time. :-)

[Xelora]

I know it hurts so badly, I'm grieving a love right now too.

So here comes a bunch of ideas that I really know are easier to say than to do for myself and just take any part you like and ignore the rest.

Well my first reaction is that if they really were laughing at you and not just laughing for some reason and you were afraid it may be at you (I do this sort of thing), then ugg she sucks and isn't worth being broken up over. But I don't think that ever soothes anyone's heartache much.

Allow yourself to feel the pain of loss of what could have been, even if it was all an illusion and you weren't even loved as well as you thought. Or even if it really was because of your depression. Or any number of even ifs that you or she may never fully understand.

Allow yourself to feel the uncertainty and powerlessness and accept that it's there.

Be glad that you can love, and embrace that part of yourself, even if it only seems to be bringing pain right now. Allow yourself to see how the depression or anything else may have held back your ability to love as well as you might have liked and learn what you can from it, even if you can never make things right or go back and change things with her.