[michelle75]

hi,

i am new to this so please be patient. i was diagnosed in Dec 2009 as bipolar. Since then my husband has told me on several occasions to LEAVE. we have been together for almost 12 years and I love him soooooooo much. We also have alittle boy together. since January i have been on 2 different meds and now on my 3rd. ( i keep having reactions). I just wanted to know how other couples get through this and how...my husband says he can't trust me anymore because of my over spending and lying.......how do i make him understand. i really don't want to lose him or my son.....HELP!!!!!!!!!!!

[jenkins09]

Are you in therapy? can you ask him to accompany you to one of your sessions so he can speak to your T and gain some perspective on the situation? 12 years is a long time to just throw it away. He is frustrated and probably feels like nothing will change. Try to be sensitive to his needs at this time too. I hope it works out for you both.

[michelle75]

Originally Posted by jenkins09

Are you in therapy? can you ask him to accompany you to one of your sessions so he can speak to your T and gain some perspective on the situation? 12 years is a long time to just throw it away. He is frustrated and probably feels like nothing will change. Try to be sensitive to his needs at this time too. I hope it works out for you both.

Seems like no matter how hard I try....it don't make a difference. He said he will go to therapy with me but only to preserve a our friendship for the sake of our son.....I don't know what to do . Ilove him so much and feel that deep down this is not what he wants.........HELP

[jenkins09]

maybe you can ask him to give it 8 or 12 weeks to see if therapy can help your relationship. Think he will go for that?