[sewsweetie28]

Last night my boyfriend whome I live with and have 2 chirldren wiht told me he has had it and wants to seperate for good. I am so lost and scared and sad, mostly for my chirldren. Hte only place I have to go is about 2 hours away from him and our home. I am so sad for my chirldren, taking them away from all they know is killing me. I just look at them and they have no idea, they are so happy in their home, I feel emense guilt and sadness for them. They are onlly 1 and 2. I am so scared I have been a stay at home mom and have no money and I know he won't give me any, just one of the prolbems I am facing. I know I have to call my Mother and let her know because thats where we are going to sta but I can't even call her at this point because I can't face the reality of all this right now. I thought this was what I wanted too but when it comes down to it I don't want this for my kids or me. How do I get through this?????

[jenkins09]

Why do you have to leave? why doesnt he? As far as money goes, file for child support. If he truly wants to dissolve the relationship, he has a responsibility to take care of his kids.

Have you tried couples therapy? I hope it all works out for you.

[sewsweetie28]

now he is saying he will leave and pay the rent and bills, sohopefully he will follow through on this and we will not have to leave our home for now. thanks jenkins!

[shezbut]

(((sewsweetie28)))

I hope that everything works out well for you and your kids. You are in my thoughts!

[sewsweetie28]

THanks shezbut! Trying to reconcile and went to therapy last night togeather, was good. I hope we can commit to working on this togeather for good!

[jenkins09]

Sewsweetie...hows it going?

[sewsweetie28]

Hey jenkins! Thanks ofr asking! THings are going well for now. I say for now because it is definatly a work in progress. My BF is commited to wroking things out and has admited to his wrong doing in the relationship which I think was a big step. We are both just trying every day to show love and apreciaton and communication with and for eachother. I am trying to stay positive!

[jenkins09]

Good for you!

[Angelfire]

May I suggest find a mediator... 1 n 2 are very young and easier to separate... I felt as you back and now after almost 19 yrs married and my oldest is 14 i am trapped and don't have the heart to leave cause my children will suffer too much and hate me forever... If you can work things out is good but if not is better to get it done bfr the kids are too old to resent what they don't understand... my thoughts and prayers are with you...

Originally Posted by sewsweetie28

Hey jenkins! Thanks ofr asking! THings are going well for now. I say for now because it is definatly a work in progress. My BF is commited to wroking things out and has admited to his wrong doing in the relationship which I think was a big step. We are both just trying every day to show love and apreciaton and communication with and for eachother. I am trying to stay positive!

[sewsweetie28]

Thank you Angelfire, I have thought about what you are talking about for a long time before all of this even happened and all I can do is work on what we are going through righ now because I don't want to leave. Neither of us want to break up for more reasons than just our kids! As things go now they are good. I am very proud of how far we've come thus far, it's been about 3 weeks and we have fought less durring this time than we have in a long long while! So I am optimistic, we have been spending time togeather as a family and he has been able to open up emotionally and I have not been so angry and trying to be more of a positive person. Thank you everyone for carring and reading what I have written here! I will keep you updated.