[ringtailcat]

I KNOW I need to end this relationship, but every time I try to talk to her I panic. The last time we broke up, everything was crazy. Ranting on the phone, I changed my cell (my niece, where I was staying wouldn't change her #),leaving rambling messages, coming to the house. This keeps coming back to me & I put it off again....
So far I've got a new cell phone & have the support of my family. In my head it's so easy, I know my reasons are valid. I don't know why I continue to let her have so much control over me. M's joke with friends is that "Chris is always wrong & everything is aways Chris's fault", the thing is, in truth, it's no joke.. She is narssistic, expects me to do everything when we are together & is totally controlling.
The only reason I haven't left this relationship 2+ yrs ago(when my T wanted me to) is because M needs open heart surg,& at that time I said I would stay & see her thru that, then leave. M had to get a lap band to lose weight before having surgery, which was going ok till 9 mos ago. she went off her plan & isn't losing wt anymore. Her heart is stable & the surgeon says she could go yrs bsfore getting surg, she still has to lose the wt. I'm no longer willing to continue being treated this way.
I just have to get brave enuff to say it....

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Hello Chris,

I totally agree that you need to be out of that relationship,

Rhiannon

[ringtailcat]

THAT part I know, anybody have any suggestions on how to get past the panic???

[Perna]

Who/what's causing the panic? Just don't call her anymore and if she calls you, don't talk to her. Do other things in your life and "move on" and eventually you won't think of her as much, living life; work, school, other relationships, doing chores, etc. will replace the direct nature of the feelings, mute them to part of your memory as if you had moved or changed jobs, etc. Do you think about your third grade teacher when your in fifth grade? Same concept.