[rebeldoll13]

i filed for child support right away.
as i was looking at our county website i was reading on domestic violence.
and i have to admit that my marriage had that i was emotionally abused.
my mom told me that too as she gave me a ride to work. that what he was doing was a type of abuse.
as i read the what domestic abuse is and what it can cause and the end results of it
i began putting the pieces together things starting clicking into place.
i understand now why i always had that anxiety why i always questioned myself.
i never quite understood y i wasn't the same person i was years ago.
and why that dramatic change and that my past was hazy to me.

i texted my husband since we are only on a text only type of contact and i told him from my heart that i needed to let him know that our marriage had domestic abuse.
hew said well its good your getting out of it.

i can only wonder what he was really thinking.
but i feel a bit on the bright side. and ready to continue forward.
i will turn to god for help but i will also turn to the law for my divorce help.
i know the beginning is just right in front of me i just have to push away the things getting in between me and the door to a better life.

[Leed]

Hi - Good for you!! I'm glad you did some reading on the subject. I too was the victim of domestic violence - mental and psychological. I was married for 26 years to this man, and by the time I got out of the marriage, I had NO self-esteem or self-worth at all. He had really done a number on me - but of course I had let him too. I was too afraid of him to put a stop to it.

After we separated, I got some counseling, and my therapist was able to help me get my power back - and while my ex tried to harass me, he found out i wasn't going to put up with it anymore. He wasn't too happy. In fact it infuriated him. He stalked me, bought a house right around the corner from me to keep an eye on me, called me each and every night in the middle of the night - so I sold the house and moved out of town! Boy did THAT tick him off! teehee. I had finally won.

Sometimes after the separation and divorce, things get even worse because the 'man' gets angry. If I were you, I wouldn't offer him any more information because he may try to use it against you. You may also want to think about counseling because even if the marriage is BAD, we still grieve for the loss. I went thru counseling and it really helped. It also helps to keep you from making the same mistake again.

If there are children involved, make sure they receive counseling if they're old enough. This is traumatic for them too - especially them.
Best of luck to you and God bless. Take care!! Hugs, Lee