Depressed...exhausted of having a broken heart...

Hello, i hope someone can help me, i'm so depressed. i've been coping all my life with bad relationships that always seem to start with the guy adoring me and telling me im his dream come true and finish with him telling me he doesnt want me anymore....last one happened today, my boyfrien of 1 year told me he doesnt love me anymore ...he is from another country and when i met him i specifically told him i didnt want to date someone at the time for my heart was very hurt from prevous relationships, specially i didnt want to date someone who was eventually going to leave for i didnt want to go through the whole separation... he promissed me the world, he told me i was his dream come true and when he left he was going to take me with him...i finally thought i had found someone who would love me after all my bad experiences....today he told me he is leaving in a week and he doesnt love me especially no to take me with him... i feel angry, betrayed and very very sad...i dont know what is wrong with me that guys find out and leave...im terrorized dreading the pain that's to come...i just dont think i can go through this over again...HEEELLLLPPP!!!!

Hi ~ I'm so sorry this keeps happening to you. I know it must hurt. But something must be similar in these cases. What are the similarities in these men? What attracts you to these guys that leave you? What would you say is common amoung these guys ~ and what is different?

There must be some similarities among them ~ or you wouldn't be attracted to them. Perhaps if you figured out the kind of men you seem to be attracted to, you could "change" it a little. LOL Instead of the suave, debonaire guys, maybe you could try the down-home, next-door kinds. Heck, I'm just picking at straws here, but there must be some similarities.

Bless your heart - don't give up. I KNOW you're gonna find THE one. He's out there waiting for YOU. God bless. Hugs, Lee

You know, I've been through the same thing. I was in relationships that ended the same way - them dropping off the face of the earth. They didn't even have the guts to tell me it's over!

But then I realized that the common denominator was me. I keep attracting emotionally unavailable men, and the only way to change was to change me. And having been on my own for a while, I realize what I need to do and what I really want out of someone.

He is out there. In the meantime, you need to be patient and get over your loss. Give yourself a break, don't beat yourself up about it, and mourn it's passing.
I'm really sorry this happened to you.

lwhat u experience is what most of us do , we go into a realtionship thinking its the one it will last , and men promise the world , ur hte most beautiful thing , they are so happy , its standard , u need to toughen up it sounds cruel but meant in best way , get happy in urself , when u least expect it someone that is WORTHY of u will coem

A good point. If the same things are happening over and over, look for a common denominator in all of these men. And relationships take work. Ask yourself, are you engaging in sex with these guys too soon? And sometimes we get involved with people that we have nothing in common with. Next guy, ask questions, what are your interests, etc. Don't get heavily involved with someone just because your lonely. Take an inventory of yourself, something has to be changed within yourself, then maybe you won't set yourself up for heartache. Hope this helps.