[Bobbarita]

I am beside myself with anxiety about tomorrow's court appearance for my Emergency Temporary Support, which has been a long time coming, (since Sept.2012), and cannot be retroactive (I am advised). There is a huge discrepancy in income---mine is SSDI. I am BP 1. Also ADD. We have considerable assets, (20 yr. marriage).

I'm reminded by my small group of friends that I am doing well under the circumstances of vastly increased stress, physical problems, etc. I've tried to surround myself with advocates (my lawyer and a guardian, and an accountant in the beginning). I could NOT handle the paperwork, bills, documentation, etc. that has been exploding since September. My guardian does that and accounts for it monthly which greatly helped in filling out my financial information on the affidavit.

There's nothing more I can do now is there? What will be will be. I'm reassured by a few close friends that I'll be alright, and I know they mean well, but they are not going to be sitting before a Magistrate tomorrow.

My 1st divorce was 10 yrs. (and a daughter) and the process was rough---going after delinquent child support year after year, but it was nothing like this. Longer and more assets this time I suppose...

I realize I'm not unique and millions of people have been divorced. I am just flipping out nervous/anxious/jumpy/shaky over this, Someone said, "Nobody ever died from divorce." And I guess I know that too, intellectually, but this process seems to be killing me slowly---wearing me down.

If you've read this far, I would appreciate if you would share any experiences of anxiety, nervousness, etc. caused by a situation I've described. Thanks in advance.

[Travelinglady]

Sorry we're so late in getting back to you. Evidently no one was around at the time who was able to respond. We hope things turned out okay, and certainly understand your "flipping out" mode.

I personally have not been divorced, but my best friend is in her third (and she says final) marriage. I suggest you look for folks who are single because of divorce (women, I mean, right now) who can share their feelings with you and you with them. You are not alone. Divorce has been found to be a big source of stress for folks, but, yes, as your friends say, it is something that can be dealt with. I assume you and your ex agreed it was for the best, regardless of the reasons.

Check around, too, to see if there might be any organized support groups in your area. If you find yourself at your wit's end, you can always see a counselor for support. Please don't let this situation get you down too far. There's nothing wrong with getting this type of support.

[Leed]

I'm so sorry I didn't see your post, but PLEASE let us know how things went.

I was divorced after a 26 yr long marriage, and I was terrified. It wasn't a very nice divorce either, as my husband was absolutely ready to kill me. (not literally but boy was he MAD) He was verbally & emotionally abusive the whole marriage -- he wasn't the 3 yrs we were married, so I don't know why he all of a sudden flipped when we got a piece of paper saying we were "man and wife." It was weird!!! He was controlling to the point that if I went to my mothers, he'd call to make sure I was really there! He controlled every single penny I spent. I should have had my head examined for staying so long --- and I did have my head examined. I committed myself for 2 weeks. LOL

Anyway -- it wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be in front of the magistrate. He asked a couple of questions, and then it was over. In a couple of minutes, I was divorced! I felt like a ton of weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I WAS FREE!

So I hope yours went the same way. I hope it went fast and easy. God bless you and please take care of yourself. Hugs, Lee