[Mike_J]

Next Tuesday at 8:30 AM my divorce trial starts, it's scheduled for an hour and a half. Then it will be over, almost 30 years gone and I still don't know why. Really don't care why anymore, I have accepted that I will never know.

[Leed]

Awww jeez Mike. This just plain sucks. (pardon) I'm sorry -- after all those years, it's a tragedy.

But like you say, you have to accept it at some point, and I'm glad you did.

I hope now you can move on to a brighter future. You DO have a future Mike. You're a GOOD GUY, Mike! Don't forget that!! I predict that you won't have ANY trouble finding someone else -- but please don't "rebound." It will be easy to do, cause there's lots of women out there who will be ready to GRAB you!!!

Be wise in your choice next time. Don't pick the same kind of woman. That's what we tend to do -- pick the same kind of person as the one who hurt us. We have to be careful not to do that!!

I know you're "gun shy" right now, and probably don't want ANYTHING to do with women. But after awhile, you'll begin to get lonely for the opposite sex. So just be careful. Choose wisely. And take your time.

Do us a favor? Will you check in from time to time? We sure don't want to lose touch with you!!! Let us know how things are going, okay? God bless and PLEASE take care. Hugs, Lee

(((((((((((Mike)))))))))

[eskielover]

Interesting that you want to know why your wife left & will never know....I have told my H why I left & he doesn't get it & definitely didn't want to make the changes necessary (being financially responsible)....he would rather blame it on the adult ADD he was just Dx'ed with rather than working on correcting the problems......I left after 33 years of tolerating....& his comment was....."I thought you would continue tolerating it".....that sums up why I left.....but I'm really not sure that he really gets what the problem really is & that it started way before we ever got married.

Sometimes things evolve over the years & grow into such a complicated mess, it's hard to sum it up in a simple reason.....I know that was the case for me....by the end, I just hated everything about him & I don't think by that point there was anything he could have done to save the marriage because I would have never trusted him enough after all the lies & deceit I encountered through the years either.

Glad you are getting through this....& sometimes it's best to be alone even when one may feel lonely. I hope that I will be able to finish my divorce this year also......so many issues I have been dealing with put the divorce at a lower priority.....glad you are getting through this...know there is a huge sigh of relief involved when it's over....hope all goes smoothly.