[oldlife_disrupted]

It's actually a relief. This has been 4+ months of pure stress. I've had to tell me kids, I've had to go to therapy (and will for some time), buy a bunch of new furniture, re-learn my finances, everything is changing.

But now it's done. I feel like I've been put through the ringer but it's done. Now it's time to give her the space she asked for and hope it works. That and get to know myself and work on my loneliness issues.

For the past couple days she's expressed much regret, told me she loves me, shown me affection, told me I'm still her husband but she needs to space to deal with her issues. I don't know if that's just last minute regret or actual progress.

Either way, I now have the green light to heal. Still completely confused but ready to heal.

[secondfailure]

Partner, you are not alone. She moved out 3 weeks ago and I am stil trying to figure it all out. We met on Friday at the bank, severed the bank acccounts and she signed the deed to our house to me and I signed over the titles to her car. She told me on Friday to move on with my life becaseu she feels like she can not love me the way a wife should love hjer husband. As much as it hurt to hear thst I appreicated her honesty. The she says eventually she will date other people., Well what did I do to releive the pain, I went out on a date. Part of me felt really bad and the a small part of me just wanted to be sure someone still wanted me... This may be my second divoce so now I must continue going to counseling and get over this fear of being alone... My fiances are not bad but I dont have money left over to do anything but I thank God that I am able to pay for the house.. I do miss my wife but maybe we just were not meant o be and there is nothing wrong with that. I will also begin to go to divorce care next week as well.. Man life sucks.... But I must continure to think positive....

[oldlife_disrupted]

Same here with the finances, there's a lot of debt. What I found though was that I'll be able to have small holidays with the kids by planning it out better. I have 2 months per year with 3 pays and I'll save that money to take them places...won't be the cruise they're used to, but we'll have fun.

@both second and oldlife: you both definitely are not alone in this. my wife separated from me about 18 months ago now and it's been, at times, a rough ride. My situation is not important as to why she left and all that so I won't get into it.

Thing is now its been this amount of time, my two boys and I are getting on our feet, feeling better, moving on and things are stablizing. I have had to learn to handle my own finances, learn to take care of the kids alone as a single father (she now lives 2 states away) and deal with all of that, but with all of that, growth and maturity did happen and it was worth getting through.

It gets a lot better in time, whether you're in a situation to get back together with your wife after the separation or divorce, you'll be a better person, after going through it and finding your independence and self.

I'm here if you guys need an ear. Pm me if you like but you have to be on my friends list to do so, I leave that up to you.

Good luck and my heart goes out to both of you