[Softballjunkie8]

Hello all. Well I am in need of serious advice. My husband and I have been together 12 years and married almost 2. The last few months have been pretty stressful but I thought we were handling it ok. Apparently my husband has not.

He recently just left. We had about 2 weeks of disagreements and then bam...he's gone. He is the one with the job and I am unemployed because I have been caregiving for my father...he passed 4 months ago. I also suffered from a serious bacterial infection that had layed me up for a month.

Last time we did talk he said the marriage is over and he wants a divorce. He hasn't talked to me in 3 days now and bills are due. I really have the feeling he is gone for good. He drained the bank account and got payed yesterday but did not deposit any money. I have $5. He knows my situation and I am totally shocked he can be this cold. I have no idea what to do. My mom is helping as much as she can but can't pay all my bills. I have been frantically looking for any kind of work. I feel so betrayed. He has never done anything like this EVER. He's acting like a TOTALLY different person.

[Skeezyks]

Hello Softballjunkie8: I'm so sorry this has happened to you. Unfortunately I don't think I really have much in the way of advice to offer you. Perhaps other members who do have will reply to your post. I simply would like to offer you my best wishes...

Terrible.

I am thinking of several ideas...

When I suddenly found myself on my own I visited my bank. I explained the situation and they helped me with a small loan and offered to postpone payments. They also paid my bills for the first month. Yes I was scared but you have nothing to lose if you don't try.

There are a number of agencies too that can help you pay those initial bills and even help you with that job search. In my city such agencies are the food bank, the Catholic Family Services and some of the women's organizations in town. If you attend a place of worship, many can provide assistance annonymously.

Christmas is coming up. Contact agencies like the United Way to register for food and gift hampers.

There IS a way.

Rcat has very good advice.

It does sound like the marriage is over. Do you have any friends that you know of that could benefit from a boarder? I don't know, just thinking of ideas.

It doesn't sound like you have kids, that could be good.

Think of this as an opportunity for a new start.
Sadly some "get when the going gets tough"