[Hedgeleaf]

Finances STILL haven't been sorted with my divorce!

Spoke to ex tonight and he said he's losing his job at the end of the year. Says this all the time. Apparently due to this he needs more from the house etc?

I smell bull crap

Surely everything is based on the here and now, not the situation in 6 months time?

Advice?

[TishaBuv]

I don't know if he can come away with more money because of an upcoming job loss. I am sure there are loads of BS games people play in a divorce. Your lawyer should be best to advise you.

[fairydustgirl]

call BS...your ex is going to get another job 'if' he loses this one. deal in the here and now, not 'what if' something happens 6 mos down the road. cause, 'what if' nothing happens? but you are effed over by his speculation...LOOK OUT FOR YOU! talk to your lawyer to get the best advice. but don't 'help' your ex in a way that is detrimental to you.

My ex and I agreed to put in a 'modification' clause in case he had a major life change but the fact that he has been a workaholic for the last 20 years and shows no signs of that ending, I'm not concerned. In fact the mediator looked straight at him and was like 'how old are you? you're not going to retire any time soon, why would you? you're young and not eligible for social security for years to come'...I'm not too worried, my ex has a PhD in cyber security topics and works for govt contracts...jobs are not going to disappear. anyway, it would still have to go to court for modification and would not be automatic..he'd have to show just cause.

You mention he is always saying he is going to get laid off - yet he has apparently done nothing about it. Any lawyer worth their salt will latch onto this; that being laid off would NOT be a surprise and thus he had opportunity - and responsibility - to take steps to rectify that by at least looking for other employment.

I was in a similar position. My ex tried to get the chid support lowered as he found himself out of work. My lawyer and I pointed to the fact that he was in a contracted position - that he had then had 3yrs notice to make plans. They immediately withdrew their motion.

I see your case as similar. He knows his job is apparently tenuous. Unless he himself was able to prove MI, quitting it would not improve his case.

My ex tried to claim he might lose his job anytime. It was just posturing on his part. Trying to make a difficult divorce more difficult. The judge was not swayed lol

[healingme4me]

Judges often see through the bs. Tell him for now on let the attorneys work out the details. It's just a control tactic, leading you in to feeling badly for doing whatyyou're doing, which is divorcing him.