[oldleolion]

Married 58 years, three nice kids wife now has personality disorder and wants to go find a new man who understands her. Very angry and bitter. Shocking to me who has never cheated on her. She is even violent at times/ Any hope for us? oldleolion

[Skeezyks]

Hello oldleolion: I'm sorry you find yourself to be in such a difficult situation. Hopefully being here on PsychCentral can be of some comfort & support.

I would hate to be in the position of pronouncing your situation hopeless. But the ball is really in your wife's court. If she will not seek treatment for whatever is going on with her, & she's determined to leave you, then realistically there may simply be little you can do.

You mentioned the two of you have been married for 58 years & that your wife has a personality disorder. I presume you're both fairly elderly. I wonder if there is a possibility your wife is developing some senior dementia & this is contributing to her present mental state. It might be worth having this evaluated. Of course, here again, she has to be willing to do so. If she's not then there may be little you can do.

I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. There are many knowledgeable & caring members here. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!

[gayleggg]

58 years is long to be married and just decide suddenly that you want out. Sounds like your wife is making decisions that may be part of her mental illness. I agree with Skeezyks that if she won't go to counseling with you that you might not have a choice. I certainly hope she comes to her senses before it's too late.

[eyesclosed]

Wow U must feel sick inside. What do your kids think about all this. Did she slowly start to change or was it like over night. Did she start anf new medications? I feel bad for u.