Advice needed

Hello everyone
My ex wife has literally destroyed my relationship with my family and friends with her habitual lying and narcissistic tendencies. After being divorced for 20 years she still tries to turn people against me. I think she fears If people learned what I know about her she'll lose control and be caught for the liar she is? In order to keep this short i will hit a highlight of just one thing I've had to deal with.
1. She lied (not just to me) and said she was raped by her boyfriend (30 years ago) and got pregnant. The same guy is a twice convicted child molester who (I just found out 3 months ago) she's kept in contact with during and after our divorce. What's gotten me pissed about the situation is after our divorce I paid my support faithfully every week and also gave her money and paid some of her bills on the side to make sure my son and stepson was taken care of. The whole time she was sending this piece of **** money, but she couldn't pay for my son's school lunch. I only found out because I got online to check his grades and etc.. Don't get me wrong I had no problems calling the school each week to pay for his lunches. But she chose to support a piece of **** in prison instead of making sure her kids had lunch!
The boys are adults now and doing good but they seem to overlook all the shady **** she's pulled in life and did to people.
A year ago she married this same piece of **** and denies saying he raped her and that he's innocent and didn't molest the two children even though he spent 6 years in prison the first time and 4 years the next stretch wtf! Everyone I know friends & family has no clue that this person is classified as a "violent sexual predator" because she has lied to everyone and down played it. The people I thought were my friends are just fake now and basically believe whatever **** spews out of her mouth. I never did anything to these people, actually I've lived away for years. I guess part of me just wants to expose her for the liar she is but I don't want to hurt the boys either? I could write a book on other things she did lol! Any advice or thoughts are welcome. Thanks for letting me vent!

Hello Reed6868: I'm sorry I don't think there is much I can offer with regard to this situation. However I see this is your first post here on PC. So... to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! May the time you spend here be of benefit.

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Maybe with the flyer in hand from the police department, hand one each to your now adult sons and hope they take it serious where their future children are concerned.

So sorry to read that you got the short end of the stick while your ex painted you the bad guy.

Welcome to PC!

So sorry to read about what you're going through!

Hi Reed sorry to hear things aren't so good. Firstly, regardless of your wife's b.s. you should find out if this guy really is a paedophile. If my friends had kids or grandchildren around this guy, I would want to know exactly what he did before I could make decision on him. Google can help you find any papers or news reports written about it at the time. I don't know about the US but in the UK you can request a list of SO's in your area.

Finding out just how much of a threat this guy is and making sure that if he is , assuming this isn't some elaborate lie your ex made up, that any friends or family with children are informed in sensible way, allowing them access to the relevant information.