[Wantmyhusbandback]

I'm going to see a divorce lawyer. My husband has been cheating on me, when I thought we were trying to work things out. He has been caught and has been lying to me and to everyone. My question is what are some questions I need to or should as the lawyer. Please help totaly lost here.we have been married for 21 years been together since we were 15 now we are both 40. No kids at all.
Thanks for any helps

[gayleggg]

I'm sorry you are having to go through this.

Does your husband have a retirement account, are you in a community property state, will he have to pay alimony? These are just a few I can think of at the moment.

[healingme4me]

Sorry that you are going through this. Agree about asking about retirement accounts. Maybe add in questions about health insurance.
Debts, outstanding might be another question that I'd have. And legal fees. He stepped out on the marriage, afterall. Alienation of Affection might be another question that I'd have.

[Wantmyhusbandback]

Thanks for the info I didn't even think about health insurance

[eyesclosed]

I'm sorry and currently in a long drawn out divorce. I would have to know what state you are resided in. States have different laws wisconsin is a no fault community property state. Always ask for references.

[Wantmyhusbandback]

I'm in the state of ma.

[JeremySParadis]

Going through a divorce is rough. It is a tough case because it is not only legal, but very emotional. Good luck! Hope you get out of this soon and without any complication.

[eyesclosed]

Oh boy you live in a limited or absolute divorce state that's a good thing.
I live in a no fault and community property state and has a lot of statutory law that goes to case law where it can be interpreted many ways. So from what I read a limited divorce is a 1yr legal seperation that then can be the reason for a absolute divorce. You have to have a reason for absolute divorce. The laws are pretty black or white. It's still hard no matter what the reason. Attorneys are expensive but you get what you pay for. I know this is hard.

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by Wantmyhusbandback

Thanks for the info I didn't even think about health insurance

Mine was worded into the divorce. I have a pre-existing health condition that has an unknown future. At that point in time it made sense to have him continue to carry me on his employer health plan as a just in case. No arguments from attorneys or the judge. I live in MA.

Edit to Add: It was also worded with a provision about maintaining employment. Still liable if willfully loses employment type of provision.

[Mike_J]

I would absolution talk to a lawyer. Call around you will likely be able to find one that will give you a free consultation, but even if you have to pay for it, it will be money well spent.

Also make sure you know EVERYTHING about your finances.

[BelleValentine]

Health insurance, Life Insurance, retirement funds, bank account, and any and all financial and personal documents including but not limited to, email and texts, evidence etc. lost my life insurance, thats a biggie when getting divorced, Alimony and money to live on while getting divorced. DIvorce is hard and dirty, I wish you the best of luck~!

[Crazy Hitch]

I was in your shoes a year ago ... and it's bloody hard.

But you will get through this the other side a stronger person; even if it doesn't feel like you will right now.

[vikingr48]

MA is NOT a community property state where each gets 50/50 of assets that accrued to the marriage. So you have to fight it out with him about what you will get and he will get. The idea in MA is that everything be equitably split.
And most judges will decree that health insurance be provided for, either by the COBRA act for his insurance, straight insurance or ACA. Right now, ACA is pretty good insurance, especially in MA and with a lower income it is cheaper. MA also has its own version of the ACA. The judge may make you pay or him, depending again on equitability. But generally a judge will always rule on health insurance and that it be provided. Ask if he does not.

[Grandessa]

I didn't know anything about our finances, but the attorney gets "discovery," and response to interrogatories. Also, we have his bank account records, and everywhere he has ever worked has been subpoenaed for info on deferred comp., etc. You have to be a good project manager to oversee litigation, perhaps regardless of who your attorney is.