[hopeless2001]

Help! I dont know what to do my husband moved out last month he has a girlfriend since then I started dating an old friend he made me realize what I have been missing for the last 6yrs of my life he's everything my husband used to be.But a few days ago a got a call from my husband telling that he told someone that he was very depressed and was thinking of killing himself he's in the hospital and wants to come home(he has nowhere to go) I told him ok my problem is my friend I started to care for him and he knows ours problems he was hurt and now doesnt want to see/talk to me on the phone I never lied to him Im so confused I miss my friend but cant leave my husband in his time of need, I know when he gets better he wont appericate anything Ive done he never has but now I lost the person who make me feel alive please help

[EJ711]

Hopeless,

I'm sorry things are so difficult for you right now.

My husband has been a real pain in the neck lately, and somedays I would just like to bail and go somewhere else. My loyalty keeps me hanging on.

You are the person who has to live with your decisions. No matter how hard it is for your new-old friend to be hurt and mad at you right now, I think that is less of a problem than having to deal with your conscience if you didn't help your husband right now, and he killed himself.

EJ

[Perna]

The woman who lived in this house, she was cared for when she was dying from cancer by her ex-husband and his second wife. I think if my husband was seeing someone else and I got interested in someone else I'd not be in the same "home" for my ex-husband to come home to.

I guess your new friend was only a fair weather friend (like your husband's girlfriend?) and you should work on this crisis and getting your husband and your affairs finished before you try again. Split from your husband for good instead of letting him use you in the future like it sounds like he is doing.

[50guy]

Maybe your husband has had a true awakening to what really matters or, he got dumped by his girlfriend after she used him for her own gain. You need to fully evaluate the situation before deciding. If he comes home find out for how long or if he intends to remain married to you.

As for your friend, dosen't he have a heart big enough to wait this out and do you have a heart big enough to love two men?

Good luck to you.