[Thesaneex]

My wife and I have been married for over six years. We met two years after her separation from her ex and several months after their divorce. This came in yesterday. Within the past six months, he has been telling her she was unfaithful to him with me. It is a recent development. For the first 7 years of our relationship, he attacked everything about her, but never accused her of adultery. No idea where this stuff is coming from. How does one deal with this guy?

Dear XXXX,

You have once more been successful at undermining my authority with OUR Children... (as you have done so many times in the past) In this case, this time, with XXXXX. It continues to evidence that you just don't have an understanding of how successful joint parenting is supposed to be done. I really feel very sorry for you in the sense that OUR Children will soon discover and realize the harm and devastation you have inflicted upon them. The TRUTH Will ALWAYS Surface and it truly saddens me to know that our children will have to be dealt yet another blow in regards to their reality of who and what their mother is really about. They will inevitably come to know that their mother broke her vows of marriage and slept with another man. They will know that their own flesh and blood (mother) brainwashed them to alienate them from a father who unselfishly loves them. They will know that their mother took up with a man who is A Real Control Freak and will know that the lies about their father being controlling were exactly that, LIES!

With all this said, you need to know that I HURT FOR YOU and for OUR CHILDREN who must suffer the most. I have and will continue to forgive you you for your choices because I refuse to be a slave to the past. Know that you are forgiven and that I excitedly anticipate your statements of contrite, awareness, acceptance and ownership of your choices for the betterment of OUR Children. My heart breaks and aches for you and our children. And know that as the mother of our children, I continue to and will always have, love and respect in my heart for you.

God's Peace and
Godspeed,
-XXXX

[healingme4me]

I'm not sure there is even any response?

My own parents divorced when I was reaching double digits. Did she remarry months after the divorced finalized? Yes. That was for me to sort through most of my life. Did my dad nearly 30 years later bring out more accusations of multiple affairs prior? Yes. Do I believe him on that note? No. Do I believe he plays the victim card to appear more desireable to new women in his life? Yes.

[Bill3]

I excitedly anticipate your statements of contrite, awareness, acceptance and ownership of your choices for the betterment of OUR Children.

I trust that she will not put any such thing in writing.

[eskielover]

No RESPONSE!!!! People who are as mentally OFF as your wife's X is, there is no point to responding. He has his mind made up as to what reply he wants. This crap should NEVER be replied to but accumulated & added with the r3st of his crap & given to tbe judge who is overseeing the child custody.

No idea if she could get a restraining order agwinst 5his guy for harrassing her which may take away his rights to see the kids. Let the court OR HER DIVORCE attorney figure out the best way to handle this. Sometimes when issues come up after a divorce is final, the divorce attorney will still handle issues if they come up. Definitely worth looking into....but this is far beyond being something that your wife should EVER RESPOND TO. NO!!!NO!!!NO!!!...let the lawyer respond to this.

[Thesaneex]

I think that is excellent advice. Thank you

[eskielover]

and that I excitedly anticipate your statements of contrite, awareness, acceptance and ownership of your choices for the betterment of OUR Children.

would LOVE to see his look when that response he is looking for comes from her divorce lawyer. He will be getting what he deserves not what he wants

[Rose76]

Any attention this guy gets from this will encourage more drama from him. He hasn't managed to move on with his life. So he's trying to squeeze himself into the middle of his wife's new life. He sounds mentally unbalanced to me.

Dealing with him is really your wife's resonsibility, not yours. I can understand her showing you the note and looking for you to be supportive. I agree with the posts further up that discourage giving this guy any response. Your wife must be really glad to be away from him.