[petitpoisson]

Hi Everyone,

Honestly I wish I weren't here. I'm 29 years old and recently found out my husband doesn't know if he wants to be with me anymore.

His reasons are that he feels a lot of resentment towards me for a period I went through 2 years ago where I wasn't sure I wanted to be with him. I was going through a period of bipolar depression and was in a manic phase where all I cared about was learning French and speaking to people who spoke French. He was going through a depression as well, and he needed me and I wasn't there. I feel tremendous guilt for this, and have apologized countless times, but it just isn't enough.

Yesterday he let me know that he wanted to spend time apart to deal with his emotions and for him to figure out what he wants with our relationship. I honestly don't know how I'm going to cope with this. We have an 18 month old daughter I need to take care of, and I feel like my life is falling apart. He's my best friend and the love of my life. Whenever I'm upset I go to him, and now I feel like I have nobody to turn to.

[Here we go again]

Sorry to hear. Are you going to counseling separately? It seems to me that both of you could use professional Intervention for your own personal issues.

Maybe when you are upset you could talk to someone else. Some (most?) Men are not equipped to handle emotional crisis like women do. I have learned my lesson trying to gel my husband to understand/help with my own emo crap, it just spooked him out. I wish I would have just seek counseling for my stuff instead of spooking my husband. I'm not blaming myself,, just reflecting in what I could have done better.

Hope you feel better. Be kind to you now.

[Yaowen]

Dear petitpoisson,

I am so very, very sorry that this is happening to you. How utterly heartbreaking. I wish I knew what to say to help ease your distress and pain. Hopefully these Forums will prove helpful to you. Many years ago I was in a somewhat similar situation to what you describe and the pain of it was nearly beyond endurance. So my heart really goes out to you. I hope that somehow, someway . . . that things get better and go back to normal. So, so sorry!

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen

[MickeyCheeky]

No need to feel guilty. You were struggling as Well and i am sure that you didn't mean to hurt him although it's unfortunate that he doesn't seem willing to Forgive you for what happened. Perhaps try to suggest couple counselling and talk to him about ALL of this and see how it goes from there? SEnding many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @petitpoisson, your Family, your FriEnds and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!