Just heard soon to be ex's voice....................

((((sabby)))), so sorry you had to go through that. i am sure that time will heal your wounds. wishing you the best..

agony

Thank you m'dear ((((((((((( agony )))))))))))) I know you are right!


sabby

(((((((((((((_sabby)))))))))))),

I just read your post here...sometimes it's takes time to get into the deeper forums. I am sorry that your ex is dragging his feet in getting the divorce going. You are right in making him handle it & pay for it after all you have done in working in getting him over here & for him to just give up....he has to be financially responsible for something in the relationship. Sadly, he gave up, but maybe he realized that he might have been using he marriage to get over to the US???? & when they started digging, he realized this?

I think in relationships, we have dreams in our hearts & minds as to what it will actually be like at the beginning & when we jump into things with our hearts before our minds control the situation, it leaves us open to getting hurt & having the relationship not be what our dreams said it would be......sad thing is that reality is hardly ever like our dreams think it will be.

I hope that your hurting has subsided & that you are back to the reality of the relationship. It is hard when we want something to work out so bad & we push & push trying to get it to be what we want & the other person just isn't there....those one sided relationships just don't work......& hurting ourselves over it isn't healthy.

You are always so practical & wise.......sometimes it's hard to be that way with ourselves......but when that strength is a part of us, it usually ends up taking over & helping us through these rough times.

Wishing you peace,
Debbie