How do I handle this??

Feb I got a DUI, spent 11 days in jail. after that my wife and I grew apart a bit and she went to her mother for comfort and I went to my friends. Her parents have been involved in our marriage from the get go, but my wife says theyhavent (of course) aug. I got into a bar fight and someoen got hurt, so Im looking at jail time now. hopefully only 30 days. But my wife left me and tells me she isnt sure if she can put her heart back into our marriage. I realize now all teh BS Ive done and am dedicated to change my wife and my ways. but I dont think divorce is the answer. But she is giving up...

Any suggestions???

If I was in your shoes, I'd do my time and also do any anger management classes, therapy, substance abuse treatment available to me. I'd focus on getting myself healthy first.

I'd hopefully know that the best way to show anyone that I'm determined to change my ways is by doing exactly that - change my ways.

Good luck with everything, there is a lot of help available to you.

I agree with the above post. If you really want to change and make an effort she will see that . It won't be easy but it will be worth the effort.

I am also going to have to agree with the above. I think we have to deal with our own issues first.

You need to first admit to yourself you have a problem. Then, you have to want to change for yourself (not her).

Get started on your own. Write her some letters to express your feelings.
Ask her for help and support. If you need to attend meetings ask her to go with you.

Don't rush things. Don't over pressure her.

Good luck