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#1
May 20, 2005, 08:27 AM
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I wanted a bit of light comfort reading today and was looking at the magazines.
In the end I bought a natural health one...but even that.... WHY do all magazines, especially this time of year, talk about GETTING THIN AND LOSING WEIGHT????  As if ALL of us are overweight and need and want to lose a few extra pounds...???? WELL I have news for them....some of us are still struggling with being underweight and trying to eat enough and are coping with the physical effects of long term depression... WHAT ABOUT US???? "what about me?" GROUCH sorrel |
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#2
May 20, 2005, 08:40 AM
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Yeah, it's all about looks. It even makes me, someone who is supposedly "normal weight", feel fat and inadequate. I really struggle with body image and try to not focus on any of those articles. Our society is still so shallow, looks and money are what seem to matter. That attitude really hurts people. My 9 year old daughter, who had this perfect little body, keeps telling me she is fat. argh!
 My therapist's office had these glamour type mags in the waiting room with these horribly thin models in it. I actually told my therapist that they may not want to have those kinds of magazines in their office. I'm sure they have a lot of clients who deal with body image issues. I haven't seen those mags since!! Since obesity is the big national problem, I doubt you will find many (if any) mags that address your problem. Best to find support elsewhere-like here! HUGS!
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#3
May 20, 2005, 08:45 AM
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hey thanks complic8ed...
now, you have just given me a *probably grandiose* idea....start up a magazine for people with 'mental health issues.....' now, I wonder......  I am astounded your therapist's office had those mags,and glad they disappeared! Here IS good sorrel |
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May 20, 2005, 09:25 AM
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What bothers me are the magazines that talk about losing wieght and on the front cover have a fattening dessert on it arggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Angie
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#5
May 20, 2005, 08:20 PM
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It is really sad when you can't get some light reading out of a magazine, even one that should have been safe....society is craming things in front of our eyes every way we turn....
I too have the problem of being underweight, & have, for a joke, taken some of the tests that are offered regarding diets....just to see what they come back with....jollies....at least they didn't say I needed to diet.....& actually came back saying that you are underweight, sorry we can't help you....I was actually surprised that they were honest enough to say that I was underweight & not continue to promote their diet. I have also noticed your observation that there is very little out there talking about how mental issues really effect the physical....When I realized that the trauma I went through was actually the driving force in the extreme weight loss, I started searching the web & have now found out much information about actual deseases causing weight issues & also mental causing weight issues...everything is so interrelated & complicated...it is a wonder that we ever get through it all. At least here we can give each other support on subjects that the professionals seem to lack the understanding of at times. Debbie
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May 20, 2005, 11:59 PM
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Yea, I know what you mean! I normally flick over the page when I see that and anyway it's doesn't always works. It's really annoying when my friends at school say they are fat. When they haven't got anything to lose. There fine why does nearly everyone these day worry about there shape. Why? Sorry if I'm questioning this. But you are born the way you are be greatful!
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#7
May 21, 2005, 02:28 AM
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yes, you'd think there would be at least ONE magazine out there that was 100% safe...
When I first took Zopiclone the doctor said he'd give me the 'granny dose' because he could see that I wasn't very big... And don't even START me on clothes.....how they are always much too long in the leg, and how even (UK Size) 8 waists can be too big for me.... I know I worry about my shape because I was bullied for being little and skinny (well, one of the reasons..) and also because I look younger than I am. (I am 35, 5 foot, 6 stone 10 waist measures about 23 inches I think) I am naturally underweight, but the depression and efexor and a sort of low level anorexia have combined to make me less than 'normal'. glad this place is here, sorrel |
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May 21, 2005, 01:40 PM
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Only a magazine that doesn't accept ANY ads might be safe from this...
I'm 5'8" and look great at size 8, so I'm still not sure about what weight/size you are healthy at... we need to work harder on not allowing those pages bother us so much! and flipping them faster when we find them
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May 21, 2005, 02:08 PM
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yep Sky.....snag is its not just ads...
anyway..why was I making such a big issue out of it??? And I'm feeling a little vulnerable now, reading this, a little hurt even..what is it in me that has been triggered... a bit scared. body image issues...not sure if want to talk about here..not feeling that safe about it...   wish I could just activate mature assertiveness right now..but... sorrel |
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#10
May 21, 2005, 02:34 PM
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It's another issue... and you've assessed it pretty well imo.
You were triggered... and saying so is very assertive! Take care, stay safe.
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May 21, 2005, 02:59 PM
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thanks (((((Sky)))))
*I just took some time out writing in my journal to explore what was going on...and, I want to assure you Sky that its nothing to do with you that triggered me... I had a major A HA moment when writing, and its to do with-- my excitement as I was coming home from work today about how I have felt less bothered by people being in close proximity to me today---for the past 6 months I've been *jumping a mile* internally and sometimes moving back/running away almost when someone came too close... And I wondered...how come I am feeling down if I was feeling excited and alive an hour ago? I was working in therapy yesterday about how I find it difficult to sustain aliveness and go into vulnerability because that's more 'familiar'. So I thought hard and... I realised that it is for sure to do with my body image, and how I feel ashamed of my body... ..but also I see now how it 'bears the scars'... *I am still the height of your average 10 year old, and I am 35. *I am about a stone underweight for my height (apparantly...I do have light bones) *My ribs can be seen through my skin--there is NO fat there. *I have to colour my hair frequently now to cover the increasing white hairs. *I have very dark circles under my eyes. *My skin is really dry. *I ache and am tense. It also bears the scars of being called spas beanshoot weed shrimp brace face etc...throughout my teenage years... My body and all that it is and all that is has been feels really visible to others and that makes me feel ashamed...I feel like a ....old hag from fairy tales... ..when I should be a young maiden or a princess... I also feel sad for my body...and wonder how I can nurture it now... I am excited by these insights and have been skipping around the flat with my happiness....and am now tucking into a bowl of tofu, veg and noodles.... sorrel |
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#12
May 21, 2005, 08:01 PM
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((((soft hugs)))) OK that makes my brain hurt, all that thinking you're doing! I try not to look into the mirror so hard, as I, too, have dark circles (anemic) and I quit coloring my hair over a year ago and it's not just grey but multi grey colors, and ...
but this is about you ... and now you CAN nurture your body tofu is good  <-----sits by sorrel and sneaks a biteplease know that reflecting upon life, esp the past is common to everyone... some of us though do get hung up on the past... ppl who call names are insecure themselves. It isn't about you, it's their problem. I think.... 
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May 22, 2005, 03:34 AM
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May 22, 2005, 05:56 AM
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Hi Sorrel,
Just to let you know that I'm reading your posts, and thinking some supportive thoughts about you. Myzen |
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May 22, 2005, 01:15 PM
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thank you.....its nice to know I'm noticed...
sorrel |
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May 22, 2005, 01:19 PM
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Do you know if bulimia causes gray hair?
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May 22, 2005, 02:48 PM
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sorry, I don't. I don't have bulimia. A friend described me as 'borderline anorexic' though. Most of my hair is still brown. And my mum's hair started going grey at 21, and I'm 35. She was never bulimic either. I am told of course that stress doesn't help..... sorrel |
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May 22, 2005, 03:46 PM
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Wouldn't lack of proper nutrition add to the chance of grey hair? I think so. Stress? Definitely!
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May 22, 2005, 04:54 PM
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lack of proper nutrition on more than one level, I would reckon (emotional as well)
sorrel |
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May 22, 2005, 07:55 PM
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Attributing lack of nutritional and emotional health to gray hair makes sense. I'm starting to gray but am in my thirties. Although I'm not bulimic, I have been anorexic in the past and still struggle with eating issues. In a fiction novel I had recently read, a scene that ascertained the connection between gray hair and bulimia. Throughout my own therapy, this correlation had never been mentioned. I thought that maybe this information was derived from some recent research I was unaware of. Let me know if anyone hears about anything that could confirm or negate the gray hair/bulimia issue. Thanks!
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