[phoenix47baby]

Does anyone else get disgusted with others' bodies? I know that body image is the main issue here. (mine) But, i take it farther and am so hyper-critical of other people's bodies that it just gets to be too much. Like men I am dating have to be in good shape, no hanging guts, flab, etc., otherwise it is a total turn-off. Can anyone relate and I wonder (outloud) how long this goes on in life or is it just a personal inside issue. Thanks for reading and for your input. Sorry to be negative about the human body.

[Moreta]

Do you think you're hyper-critical of the outside of peoples body because you don't want to know what's on the inside? For example, you would think that people in good shape are in good health, exercise, take care of themselves, etc. Where as with people that aren't in good shape don't have good health, don't take care of themselves, don't exercise, etc. *random thought*

I used to do the same thing, but then I got fat....lol.

[gingerkat]

I never get disgusted with others, just myself. I am no one to judge someone else. I feel for all that have weight issues.

[Pup]

I'm critical too.

[emg15]

Originally Posted by phoenix47baby

Does anyone else get disgusted with others' bodies? I know that body image is the main issue here. (mine) But, i take it farther and am so hyper-critical of other people's bodies that it just gets to be too much. Like men I am dating have to be in good shape, no hanging guts, flab, etc., otherwise it is a total turn-off. Can anyone relate and I wonder (outloud) how long this goes on in life or is it just a personal inside issue. Thanks for reading and for your input. Sorry to be negative about the human body.

I understand what you're saying. I'm very critical of other people's bodies. I'll notice every imperfection and I'm very critical about their weight. I'll notice any fat rolls or anything like that. It's hard to explain but I'm doing it b/c I'm very critical of myself. I'm doing what I feel other people are doing to me. I notice all those details about myself so I do it to others because in some way it makes me feel better.

[eskielover]

Somewhat.....I hate being critical about nit picking sort of things...remember my Grandmother being that way & I felt like punching her out most of the time....but just blew her off as being a stupid B!%@#^ lady that I never wanted to be like.....noticed that many old people were that way & chalked it off to old senile minds (she did die of alzheimers).

As far as the weight of others.....My Mother was always complaining that she had gained weight after she got married but never did anything about it. I saw many women who got married & got fat (overweight like fat). My mind thought...oh, you catch your husband then let yourself go???? So I made sure that wasn't going to happen with me. My Mom always told me that after she had me, she couldn't control her weight....so when I go pregnant....I made sure I didn't gain more than 5 pounds....my daughter was over 8 pounds. I didn't even look pregnant until the last month & I am only 5'2"......but I was back in my pre-pregnant shape in a few weeks.....the guy sitting next to me in my accounting class in college mentioned that I had lost some weight over Spring break......lol.

I wonder what people eat that are very overweight....but doesn't seem that much that it would cause that kind of weight gain most of the time....seems it has to be body metabolism.

Sad thing is that my husband gained weight.....overweight....not healthy.......went back to my thinking of my Mother.....you get married & let yourself go???? It doesn't matter how you look anymore???

His problem is that he eats from stress where I get sick & can't eat.....he gains what I loose & more. It is definitely a turn off, but his personality is more of a turn off & I left because of his personality after 33 years of crap....not because of his weight......but sure that his personality & his weight gain are part of each other.

Yes, I notice, but my best friends are overweight & they are the most wonderful people in the world.....weight has nothing to do with how wonderful people are inside.....so there is nothing about anyone's weight either overweight or underweight that would keep me away from them. One's heart & mind are what make a friend...not how much they weight.

Debbie

[ChipmunkGal]

Oddly enough I understand what you are saying as I have felt that way too and it's starting to bother me. I don't want to say it's "normal" to feel this way but if it is happening to both you and I then we are probably not the only ones.

[megzamillion]

I get it.
I'm critical too except mostly just on myself.
But I figured that's kinda normal.

I am NOT critical of other people's bodies. I think that is so sad. I think people being critical of others is one cause of eating disorders. That kind of attitude makes me feel so angry.

I too well understand the struggle with food so how can I judge someone else who struggles?

Guess I'll waddle outa here!

Just kidding!

I get fat when I get depressed because I stop caring about myself and food is all I have left (I even gave up cigarettes) to turn to for comfort. And when I feel so bad I want something that tastes good and feels like a "treat" like ice cream or pizza because I guess I associate those foods with being loved and rewarded. And it tastes good too.

So I have some sympathy from hard experience. But I'm hitting the gym every day (I'm so proud of myself) and the fat (just my gut) is flying off. I can almost suck it in flat now! Mike

Originally Posted by phoenix47baby

Does anyone else get disgusted with others' bodies? I know that body image is the main issue here. (mine) But, i take it farther and am so hyper-critical of other people's bodies that it just gets to be too much. .

Many of my peers were critiacal and disgusted with my body .

It caused me much psychic pain.

Patricia

[Porcelain_doll_2004]

I don't get critical about others but I do compare myself to others a lot. But it's nothing against them it's me looking at myself and saying how I wish I could be like them. But then I have to remind myself that that is the ED talking and not me.

[whoswho]

I always try not to be critical. People were always critical about my fat body, so I stopped eating... I'd never want some else to go through the same humiliation I have.

[phoenix47baby]

I never understood how food could be a comfort when there are so many other substitutes for food. Exercise increases endorphin activity and one can get a high. Engaging in an activity that is interesting can also increase endorphins. I wonder if there has ever been a study done about eating and an increase in "feel good" endorphins. Something to think about!

[last_stanza]

I am the opposite. Everytime I see a thin person I want to shove meat fat down their throat. It makes me so uncontrollably angry that they get to be thin.

[Isabella12]

I'm a bit of the opposite. I think everyone else's body looks better than mine. I was once convinced that a friend of mine was thinner than me until she showed me her size 7 pants. I was a size 1.