[daisy81]

Is anyone else critical of other people's weight or looks? I feel terrible about it but I'm very critical of the way other people look. The strange this is I know I do it b/c it's how I feel about myself and how I think other people view me. I'll notice if my friends gain or lose weight. I'll notice if there's a little roll here or how if they look big in something. I never say these things to them, it's only in my head. I over analyze the way they look, the same way I do to myself. I feel like such a horrible person but I can't help it. I also do it to strangers too.

I also get upset with my friends who are so happy and comfortable with their weight. When I see them eating whatever the want and not even caring or making a comment. It makes me so angry.

I hate being like this but I can't help it. Am I the only one that does this?

[Dani87]

No your not alone honey I do exactly the same thing....except I don't have friends, so I do it to my collegues and patrons at work....I get so frusrtrated when they order the most fatty and largest item on the menu and sit there and happily eat the whole thing.

No. And it makes me so angry when people are like this. Life is hard enough as it is without people being critical and negative about the way others look. Focus on changing yourself and don't worry about how others are. This makes me so sad.

[daisy81]

Originally Posted by roseleigh7

No. And it makes me so angry when people are like this. Life is hard enough as it is without people being critical and negative about the way others look. Focus on changing yourself and don't worry about how others are. This makes me so sad.

I guess my post came across wrong. I hate that I do it and it makes me angry too. I'm not doing it to judge people I'm doing it b/c it's what I do to myself. I can't look at myself and not criticize every little single thing I see and I end up to doing it to other people. I also feel others do it to me which makes me feel a thousand times worse about myself.

I'm sorry if I came across as harsh. I just hate the thought of being judged. I know you do too. I hope you're getting some help for your eating disorder.

[Dani87]

I just wat to be clear as well... I always put my foot in my mouth....I was just saying that I know how Daisy81 feels I too am not judging the person....I'm infact judging myself and I get furustrated because of that....not because of the other person......
Sorry to comment again, I just don't want you all to think I'm a horrible jugmental person. I'm sorry to make you sad roseleigh.

[Ascension]

Sometimes when we are in the process of critically thinking about ourselves, trying to see where we are weak and what we need to change we go into hyper critical stage of both ourselves and others. The important thing is that you are aware that this is not something you aren't happy about and that you are careful not to respond to those thoughts and feelings. I think it helps us all, whether we are judgmental of someone's weight or hair or whatever to try to look at them as human beings and be empathetic. I am not saying pity them but imagine how they would feel if they knew you were thinking that about them. Then it would personalize them and connect you with them on some small level and allow you to have a change of heart about them as a person as opposed to some "heavy person". I know you aren't a bad person and you want to change and that gives you a big advantage over others who don't know better. Good luck.