[avoice]

Well it's like this I have to have ED. Why? we buy food for 9 people that is hard enough. My Son has a girl friend they eat four four. So there nothing for us to eat. So my food goes to them. I don't want then to starve. I'm trying to get them on a meal plan but it's not working. So every time I seem them eat all that food. I come at him saying fine i'll starve ok. than he's gets feel mad at me. all the food we bought a week ago is all gone. When I do want something it's all gone they ate it. The food they eat everything even in the middle of nite there not eating a snacks. They actually eat a meal for 4. It's so hard to keep doing this even when they have a friend over he feeds them to. Can anybody give me advice?

[Lisa Michelle]

I don't know the situation properly but, how old is your son? I think you've told me before so sorry I've forgotten.
Is it possible for your son to get his own food and keep it seperately? I know it's a bit harsh but it might help to have clear guidelines of what food is his, and which is yours. I mean, it's not right for the other people in the house to eat all of the food, you deserve and need the food as much as anyone! And especially as you are trying to help yourself out of this ED, you need to be able to do that and if there's never food it's harming you a lot, both mentally and phsyically.

Do you feel able to have a chat with your son and gf (or just your son) and say look, it's my money going on all of the food and I can't afford to buy this much food all the time.

An idea if your son isn't old enough to buy his own food, give him an allowance for food (what you would spend on his food anyway) and let him spend it himself on food for him and his gf and friends. And then keep your share of your own money to buy food for you.

You've done great to suggest a meal plan and to try to get people to follow it! I'm really sorry people aren't helping you with it and they're continuing to eat all the food, it's a bit disrespectful of them to take more than their share if they haven't paid for it.. sorry if that sounds harsh, but I am worried for you and you deserve to be treated properly and that means all having a realistic amount of food and not just 2 people in the house over eating and leaving nothing for the rest!

[avoice]

Wow thanks fore all this advice. It's like this my son was a follower still is. He used to do what I did and go without and he got skinny. Than he got better and meat this girl she's loves to eat. now my son's gain all his weigh back. My son won't move out he's 20 and has a learning disorder and gets ssi so he has an income. I'm his payee So we used some of his money for food. To top this all off he's smokes to so there an thing for us to use his money. I've just got to stop my trigger so I stay in my room all the time just to stop me from having a trigger.

[Lisa Michelle]

Aw hun you shouldn't have to stay in your room all the time! Does it trigger you to see other people eatiing, is that what you mean? Or having conflict and things like that?
I know when I stay in my room a lot I feel more depressed, but that's usually WHY I'm alone in my room cos when I feel down I sort of withdraw.

[avoice]

I think it's some of my own garbage. When I see them eat all that food I think how fat. To see them having food. In my of opion they have an eating to it's overeating they binge eat. I want everybody to have my ED. Than we would have a lot of more to pay all my dr bills and trust me there adding up.

[Lisa Michelle]

Yeah I think if you can you should bring it up with your son and say that them over eating is costing a lot of unecessary money, it's really not fair on you!! As well as it causing you stress seeing people over eat, that would effect me a lot too. Sometimes my step dad has huge meals and it makes me really uncomfortable.

I wish you luck in hopefully dealing with this issue and getting people to listen to you! It's definitely wrong if it's meaning you struggle to pay doctors bills, that's really important that there is money for you to eat and go to the doctors too.