Um...Hi...

I don't know if I can put this here?

I'm 34.... I've been morbidly obese since Jr. High. I just got approved for Gastric Bypass Surgery with a tentative surgery date of June 10th.

Food is my best friend. It's what I plan my days and nights around. I am working with my T, a nutritionist/dietician, and the Surgeon and his Nurse Practitioner to help make sure I'm successful and healthy with the surgery. I want the surgery....badly....but.....

I'm so terrified.

What will I do when my best friend can no longer be my best friend anymore?

I'm kind of coming at this from the opposite point of view (I'm terrified of food and have a history of anorexia) but I'd guess that maybe for you, like me, it all has to do with just learning to be our own best friend. In other words, learning to like ourselves and accepting that food is just a tool for health, not the best friend nor the worst enemy.

My food issues started when it was easier to think of food as the culprit instead of being brave enough to face what I was really scared of. I'm wondering if the same kind of thing could happen on your end of the spectrum?

Hi Elysium,

If I were you I would seriously re-evaluate surgery until you've dealt with the issues of food addiction. Otherwise you're at a higher risk of just switching addictions to alcohol or something else to cope with the feelings you're avoiding. It sounds like your weight is a way to cope for you, like it is for many of us. There's no judgment here, just observation. I hope that you find the help you need to overcome whatever it is that is plaguing you.

Love and hugs,
Tara

I agree with Tara. Please talk to a therapist about this.